Women who have attended elite NYC private high schools

[Anonymous]

Wear solid colors. Something like jeans that are clean, not too trendy, and fit well. A simple sweater (regular J Crew merino or something is fine) or a button down shirt or a tee/tank and a blazer. Don't overthink this. Just solid, well fitting, ironed. Want to wear a dress? Ok. Wear a dress.

Clean makeup and hair. Stud earrings or simple jewelry. Shoes can be Rothys or loafers or clean white sneakers or whatever. Nothing trendy or crazy. Not too much perfume.

Nothing needs to be expensive.

Be polite and don't interrupt or be too loud. Don't curse or talk about money or politics (unless they do).

If they are snooty that should work. If they are not, they won't care.

[Anonymous]

What is your boyfriend like? Usually you’re able to get a sense of his family’s style and relationship with money and brands based on how he presents himself.

And I know this sounds cynical, but I always wear a nice but low-key watch (Cartier tank francaise or panthere in stainless steel does the job) around these types, plus pearl or diamond studs. It may not matter to them, but looking like you somewhat belong might make you feel more comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Brearley is full of smart nerdy types. I don't get the impression they tend to be fashion plates.

Chapin is a bit less smart and a bit more polished, clothes wise.

Really, though, just be yourself. Err on the side of being less dressy and less flashy. Look nice, neat and clean. NO perfume. Very little or no makeup.

[Anonymous]

Chug a beer and say “What up beaches”

[Anonymous]

Where do these women go to college? Do they work or not work? Just curious as my friends are all regular private and public school grads.

[Anonymous]

They dress just like they do on Gossip Girl

[Anonymous]

If they're old money, I don't doubt they'll be much nicer than the trashy, garish, new money, types who are vile and classless.

You need to relax, it'll be fine. If you're guy is the type who loves his family and loves you, I doubt he'd bring you to meet them if he didn't think they'd like you.

[Anonymous]

your* guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wear solid colors. Something like jeans that are clean, not too trendy, and fit well. A simple sweater (regular J Crew merino or something is fine) or a button down shirt or a tee/tank and a blazer. Don't overthink this. Just solid, well fitting, ironed. Want to wear a dress? Ok. Wear a dress.

Clean makeup and hair. Stud earrings or simple jewelry. Shoes can be Rothys or loafers or clean white sneakers or whatever. Nothing trendy or crazy. Not too much perfume.

Nothing needs to be expensive.

Be polite and don't interrupt or be too loud. Don't curse or talk about money or politics (unless they do).

If they are snooty that should work. If they are not, they won't care.

Don’t talk about yourself. Ask about them.

[Anonymous]

Just be yourself, honestly. Wear what makes you comfortable. I used to share office space with someone who was married to a billionaire. She wore leggings and Nike sneakers sometimes. She was nice, and she had her own problems too, money doesn't make you immortal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They will probably be quite gracious. People from those circles typically have great social skills. Relax and enjoy!

Agree. Just be yourself. The worst thing you can do is be inauthentic by trying to be what you think they want to see. That makes you look stupid and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Just be yourself, don’t try too hard because then you’ll come off stiff and awkward.