Difficulties with Teenage Boys

[Anonymous]

He should be with his dad then.

[Anonymous]

My mom used to say this about my dad. Thing is, he never said anything bad about her and she actually was narcissistic, abusive and neglectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom used to say this about my dad. Thing is, he never said anything bad about her and she actually was narcissistic, abusive and neglectful.

That is how it usually is, as western society tends to think the worst of males while giving a pass to females. Other cultures are much different though. It varies.

[Anonymous]

I've been a single Mom, now remarried, Mom to my 14 year old for a little more than 10 years. His Dad is a full blown narc, dry alcoholic, convicted of DV and spent a good part of at least 6 years torturing and always manipulating my child.

My tactic was to always stay the course. Be me, correct when I hear him say wrong things. E.g. Dad says his ex girlfriend was psycho. Well, son, your Dad also participated in that dynamic. It wasn't just her.

He loves his Dad but in no way wants to be him. Every choice he's made, whether he realizes it or not, is to follow my path. He's pursuing my profession, wants to go to my Alma mater, etc. I support him, love him and am always non-judgmental while giving helpful advice.

This didn't happened overnight. Play the long game. Be the stable parent. Correct the propaganda he hears but show no emotion.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone this is helpful. We had a therapy session last week and since thing things have improved.

[Anonymous]

Let him be with his dad if you don't want him to hate you forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys have to spend the vast majority of their time with their dad or a strong male role model if you want them to mature and be healthy adults.
It is what it is. Consider more shared custody or allowing him to live with his father as his primary.

Strong male role models don’t bash women, especially a teenager’s mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been a single Mom, now remarried, Mom to my 14 year old for a little more than 10 years. His Dad is a full blown narc, dry alcoholic, convicted of DV and spent a good part of at least 6 years torturing and always manipulating my child.

My tactic was to always stay the course. Be me, correct when I hear him say wrong things. E.g. Dad says his ex girlfriend was psycho. Well, son, your Dad also participated in that dynamic. It wasn't just her.

He loves his Dad but in no way wants to be him. Every choice he's made, whether he realizes it or not, is to follow my path. He's pursuing my profession, wants to go to my Alma mater, etc. I support him, love him and am always non-judgmental while giving helpful advice.

This didn't happened overnight. Play the long game. Be the stable parent. Correct the propaganda he hears but show no emotion.

Best advice on the thread. Take the high road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boys have to spend the vast majority of their time with their dad or a strong male role model if you want them to mature and be healthy adults.
It is what it is. Consider more shared custody or allowing him to live with his father as his primary.

Strong male role models don’t bash women, especially a teenager’s mother.

Strong female role models don't bash men, especially a teenager's father.

Works both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys have to spend the vast majority of their time with their dad or a strong male role model if you want them to mature and be healthy adults.
It is what it is. Consider more shared custody or allowing him to live with his father as his primary.

This is total bullsh**t.

[Anonymous]

My divorce was hard on my family. My daughter became distressed and ran off to some pimp named M R long dong. I tried to get her to stop slinging her stuff on the street but she says a girl need to work. We went to therapy and I decided to respect her decision to be a hoar. My son on the other hand wasn't as easy to settle. He spend all his time in his room masturbating when ever he can. When I try to drag him out and enjoy the sunshine, he sneaks of and drops a load. Wherever we go, he jerkin it. At his grandmother birthday, Jerkin it. At his cousins Bat mitzvah, JERKIN IT!. We tried therapy but he started JERKIN it to the therapist. know he's in jail. My family has never been the same since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My divorce was hard on my family. My daughter became distressed and ran off to some pimp named M R long dong. I tried to get her to stop slinging her stuff on the street but she says a girl need to work. We went to therapy and I decided to respect her decision to be a hoar. My son on the other hand wasn't as easy to settle. He spend all his time in his room masturbating when ever he can. When I try to drag him out and enjoy the sunshine, he sneaks of and drops a load. Wherever we go, he jerkin it. At his grandmother birthday, Jerkin it. At his cousins Bat mitzvah, JERKIN IT!. We tried therapy but he started JERKIN it to the therapist. know he's in jail. My family has never been the same since.

Wait. What? Hello?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys have to spend the vast majority of their time with their dad or a strong male role model if you want them to mature and be healthy adults.
It is what it is. Consider more shared custody or allowing him to live with his father as his primary.

Yeah just ask Bill Clinton or Barack Obama, who were raised by their moms.

[Anonymous]

Honestly I think he’s probably not wrong. Boys do need good male role models, especially teen boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I think he’s probably not wrong. Boys do need good male role models, especially teen boys.

SLP ds line his dad isn’t a candidate for a good male role model though.