Difficulties with Teenage Boys

[Anonymous]

What would happen if your ex got custody and you got to be every other Saturday fun mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys prefer their mother to their father from birth to around 8-10 years old, then they prefer their father over the mother. It's Nature.

That's not only wrong, it's stupid to make it sound like a universal truth.


--mom of two grown boys/men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been a single Mom, now remarried, Mom to my 14 year old for a little more than 10 years. His Dad is a full blown narc, dry alcoholic, convicted of DV and spent a good part of at least 6 years torturing and always manipulating my child.

My tactic was to always stay the course. Be me, correct when I hear him say wrong things. E.g. Dad says his ex girlfriend was psycho. Well, son, your Dad also participated in that dynamic. It wasn't just her.

He loves his Dad but in no way wants to be him. Every choice he's made, whether he realizes it or not, is to follow my path. He's pursuing my profession, wants to go to my Alma mater, etc. I support him, love him and am always non-judgmental while giving helpful advice.

This didn't happened overnight. Play the long game. Be the stable parent. Correct the propaganda he hears but show no emotion.

Why would you have a child with this man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since my divorce, my son has been difficult to deal with because his father says very negative things about me, such as I am controlling, a narcissist etc. My 14year old son often says things like woman don't know how to raise men etc. We go to therapy together to try to work on our relationship but I don't think it is very effective. His father's constant brainwashing is the only thing he hears or listens too. Has anyone been through this? Does it ever get better?

I'm sorry we are going through the same thing and it's horrible. I want you to know you're not alone. I have given up everything to raise my child and the dad has done nothing. Mooched off of me the entire time like a stay at home dad but without doing any of the parenting or house work and now this. I want to scream every minute of every day. I hope things get better for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys have to spend the vast majority of their time with their dad or a strong male role model if you want them to mature and be healthy adults.
It is what it is. Consider more shared custody or allowing him to live with his father as his primary.

DP/ this is true assuming the father is mentally stable and sound. I’m divorced finally from a manipulative and mentally ill man. He is as an unstable father was he was a spouse. The result is damage and dysfunction on all of us including teen son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boys have to spend the vast majority of their time with their dad or a strong male role model if you want them to mature and be healthy adults.
It is what it is. Consider more shared custody or allowing him to live with his father as his primary.

This is total bullsh**t.

Absolute rigid bull ish