Breaking Up is Awful - Just a Vent

[Anonymous]

I went through a breakup that decimated me for two years before I started feeling like myself again. I loved him so much it also set the bar almost too high for me to accept another man.

[Anonymous]

The real public service DCUM provides is insight into the completely twisted way that women's minds work. Thanks for posting, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real public service DCUM provides is insight into the completely twisted way that women's minds work. Thanks for posting, OP.

It’s not twisted, it’s common sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing. You don’t need another train wreck. Just get very busy building your own life.

Thanks, PP. I’m trying to focus on me. I’m headed out of town next week. Hoping it doesn’t feel like a cloud is hanging over my head the entire time.

It might be just the break in routine that you need to end the funk, actually. Have a great time!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First break-up after divorce. Had dated for three years. I left.

I love him but there were too many red flags for me: his politics are questionable - believes some conspiracy theories, he is bad with money and hasn’t saved for retirement (he’s mid 50s), he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.

Despite the above I do love and miss him. The pain is no joke. Just needed to throw that out into the universe.

Why were you with a broke and irresponsible conspiracy theorist for three years if that's not your cup of tea? If you really loved him, you would've accepted him with his shortcomings. You just loved being with someone, which you can find again.

Many of these issues didn’t become apparent until this year when we started to get really serious.

Look, I don’t know how old you are but you do not waste two years of your life waiting to get serious only to find out there are major league issues that are dealbreakers. What were you doing for two years? When you date at this stage of life you drill down and do not allocate time/emotion to people who are bad investments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First break-up after divorce. Had dated for three years. I left.

I love him but there were too many red flags for me: his politics are questionable - believes some conspiracy theories, he is bad with money and hasn’t saved for retirement (he’s mid 50s), he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.

Despite the above I do love and miss him. The pain is no joke. Just needed to throw that out into the universe.

Love is not enough.

Hang in there OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First break-up after divorce. Had dated for three years. I left.

I love him but there were too many red flags for me: his politics are questionable - believes some conspiracy theories, he is bad with money and hasn’t saved for retirement (he’s mid 50s), he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.

Despite the above I do love and miss him. The pain is no joke. Just needed to throw that out into the universe.

Conspiracy theory as in “aliens kidnapped Taylor Swift and replaced her with a robot”?

Or conspiracy theory as in “Hunter Bidens laptop is real”

Bc sometimes a “conspiracy theory” (as in the latter case) turns out to be true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First break-up after divorce. Had dated for three years. I left.

I love him but there were too many red flags for me: his politics are questionable - believes some conspiracy theories, he is bad with money and hasn’t saved for retirement (he’s mid 50s), he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.

Despite the above I do love and miss him. The pain is no joke. Just needed to throw that out into the universe.

Conspiracy theory as in “aliens kidnapped Taylor Swift and replaced her with a robot”?

Or conspiracy theory as in “Hunter Bidens laptop is real”

Bc sometimes a “conspiracy theory” (as in the latter case) turns out to be true.

+1
Weird when the actually conspiracy turns out to be among the people trying to convince the masses that a truth is some form of Russian disinformation.

[Anonymous]

Forget the conspiracy theory character flaw (which would have been enough for me to say bye boy) but a man in his 50s who has not saved for his own retirement is an even bigger red flag. No way you should hitch yourself to that, OP. I bet if you ran a credit check you'd discover he has lots of credit card debt to boot. No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First break-up after divorce. Had dated for three years. I left.

I love him but there were too many red flags for me: his politics are questionable - believes some conspiracy theories, he is bad with money and hasn’t saved for retirement (he’s mid 50s), he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.

Despite the above I do love and miss him. The pain is no joke. Just needed to throw that out into the universe.

Conspiracy theory as in “aliens kidnapped Taylor Swift and replaced her with a robot”?

Or conspiracy theory as in “Hunter Bidens laptop is real”

Bc sometimes a “conspiracy theory” (as in the latter case) turns out to be true.

As in Kamala Harris isn’t eligible to be president

[Anonymous]

It’s like getting punched in the nose. It stings for a little bit, but you’ll get over it…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First break-up after divorce. Had dated for three years. I left.

I love him but there were too many red flags for me: his politics are questionable - believes some conspiracy theories, he is bad with money and hasn’t saved for retirement (he’s mid 50s), he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.

Despite the above I do love and miss him. The pain is no joke. Just needed to throw that out into the universe.

Why were you with a broke and irresponsible conspiracy theorist for three years if that's not your cup of tea? If you really loved him, you would've accepted him with his shortcomings. You just loved being with someone, which you can find again.

Many of these issues didn’t become apparent until this year when we started to get really serious.

Look, I don’t know how old you are but you do not waste two years of your life waiting to get serious only to find out there are major league issues that are dealbreakers. What were you doing for two years? When you date at this stage of life you drill down and do not allocate time/emotion to people who are bad investments.

This^. What's the point of age and relationship experience if you can't analyze people and situations better than before?

[Anonymous]

I can see how this year would bring out the crazy in people that might have only simmered on the back burner before.