Help! What Do I Do??! 😯

[Anonymous]

It doesn't make sense that trying to evict someone would be easier than moving someone else.

It also doesn't make sense that simply moving within the same complex stops the stalking problem.

Get yourself a gun or a good dog and move. It's only a few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't make sense that trying to evict someone would be easier than moving someone else.

It also doesn't make sense that simply moving within the same complex stops the stalking problem.

Get yourself a gun or a good dog and move. It's only a few months.

I would bet that the management where you live has had other complaints from the neighbors about your exBF because I think it would be hard to evict a tenant based on another having a restraining order on them, though I guess it would depend on eviction laws in each state. Your exBF probably has other infractions on his resident record and him bothering you was likely the breaking point for your LL.
And as long as the LL does not reveal your new address to your exBF, then he likely will not be privy to your new apartment location however due to internet 🛜 websites such as peoplefinder, ETC. it is very possible to find out your new address online (even if you move outside your complex) so no matter where you relocate to he can always find you.
And since you live in Cal., the cost of living there is extremely high so I imagine a few months of rent would set you back at least $5Gs so I would not break my lease.

Best if you become more persistent in your attempts to contact your LL.
Trust me, if you become a pest they will ultimately move you just to stop dealing with you. GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to recap:

Abusive relationship with ex-boyfriend living in same complex. Restraining order granted. Requested transfer to different unit. Landlord initially agreed but later changed mind. Ex-boyfriend continues to harass. Landlord avoiding communication. Individual wants to move, feels landlord is going back on promise.

Just move and break the lease.

Look for domestic violence legal aid organizations that may be able to help here.

Also, find and read the domestic violence legislation - what does it require the landlord to do? Is eviction of the offender one of the options? Because if not, then the landlord likely needs to allow you to move.

And who is the landlord? Is it a private individual or a corporation? Who exactly have you been talking to? Because a letter laying out the facts and law may be very effective in this situation.

Call the police for every violation of the restraining order.

If the authorities cannot reach the defendant in a restraining order they cannot arrest them. So if they go to the defendant’s front door and the defendant does not open it after knocking several times, then unfortunately police officers do not have the authority to enter the home (sans a search warrant)
They could go to an offender’s place of employment but again, if the offender chooses to hide out the cops have their hands tied.

*Restraining/Protective orders are really not even worth the paper they are printed on.
They are utterly worthless*

PP here - the point in calling the police every time is only partially to get them to talk to the offender. The other purpose is to document how often the offender is reportedly violating the order. If OP also documents the circumstances herself then you have a pretty good record to either press the case with the landlord to move or for the landlord to use as a reason to evict the tenant.

[Anonymous]

^^ Very true indeed.
Personally I would rather wait until the tenant is evicted if you can. Because it is a hassle to move all of your furniture/possessions to a new location when it is easier to just have the perpetrator move off the property.

[Anonymous]

The main point of your dilemma is that your apartment manager told you that you could move into a certain apartment then he stopped communications with you and is now avoiding you.
I would be extremely angry and frustrated if I were in your shoes. It is very unprofessional behavior of a property manager to do as well as highly unethical too.
I would report him to the housing commission for what he is doing.
You have tenant rights and your manager is clearly violating them.

[Anonymous]

Landlords are notorious for saying they will do something, then they rarely follow through.

It’s too late now but next time I would get the offer in writing.

Yes the management team is clearly breaking a very specific housing law and they need to be reported so that other Domestic Violence victims do not have to deal with what you have to