Grandmother posting pictures of kid on social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the worst that can happen?

The grandmother left a clue in the background of the picture showing a red ranch style house. Google found its address. The kidnappers broke in, took child and are demanding $5 million dollars to bring her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pick a priority— getting your kid off social media or not causing tension.

“Evangeline, hi it’s Elaine. Would you mind taking the photos of Larla down from Facebook? Ernest may not have told you but we are keeping her off social media for her own safety. Thanks so much”

And if that doesn’t work you report the photos to facebook and they will take them down.

Why is the fact that you included the greeting killing me?!

This is one of my favorite DCUM things, especially the very generational names for MILs like "hi Barb" -.always gives me a chuckle.

[Anonymous]

There is absolutely nothing you can do about this, OP, except not to let her have pics, which likely won’t work since you aren’t even with the dad anymore.

[Anonymous]

you all seem to be missing the fact that OP has a husband problem. HE doesn't want to do this for sime reason. She needs to find out what his issue is with his mom before she goes around him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. You are out of sync. Just ask her to fix her settings. Then you don’t have to see them

Problem . Solved.

Way to (deliberately?) miss the point. She doesn't want anyone seeing pictures of her child.

OP: Tell Grandmother that you do not want your child on social media and if she can't respect that, you'll have no choice but to either take her phone/camera when she visits, or prohibit visits entirely.

No. I got the point. I do not believe a single parent has the legal or moral right to do this. It is ALSO out of sync with social norms, especially if grandma only has her grandchild posts on friend-settings.

It’s not out of sync with social norms, it’s out of sync with boomer entitlement, that’s not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you all seem to be missing the fact that OP has a husband problem. HE doesn't want to do this for sime reason. She needs to find out what his issue is with his mom before she goes around him.

Um, did you not see the word EX? They are divorced.

OP, write a polite email to grandma. CC ex husband. Wait a week. If pictures are still there, report to FB, Insta, etc.

[Anonymous]

Look, husband has a right to post photos. Grandma is his extension. What exactly do you expect a company to do? They allow posts of children and child models, who get paid.

Next time get it in writing during your divorce.

Or do a post-divorce modification - give Father something he wants in exchange. That’s how it works… in negotiations for modifying or supplementing agreements. Or spend your time talking to tech companies who are selling eager to spend money on sorting out your family affairs.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t you guys grow up reading about the parent lawsuits about child actors? Come on people, what are those magazines for? Did you learn nothing ??!

[Anonymous]

This is how MILs win. She doesn’t have to deal with OP anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, husband has a right to post photos. Grandma is his extension. What exactly do you expect a company to do? They allow posts of children and child models, who get paid.

Next time get it in writing during your divorce.

Or do a post-divorce modification - give Father something he wants in exchange. That’s how it works… in negotiations for modifying or supplementing agreements. Or spend your time talking to tech companies who are selling eager to spend money on sorting out your family affairs.

Husband has a right to post photos. Grandma doesn’t, without parental consent. Facebook report will solve this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, husband has a right to post photos. Grandma is his extension. What exactly do you expect a company to do? They allow posts of children and child models, who get paid.

Next time get it in writing during your divorce.

Or do a post-divorce modification - give Father something he wants in exchange. That’s how it works… in negotiations for modifying or supplementing agreements. Or spend your time talking to tech companies who are selling eager to spend money on sorting out your family affairs.

Husband has a right to post photos. Grandma doesn’t, without parental consent. Facebook report will solve this.

What if grandma takes pictures out in public where anyone and everyone is also allowed to take pictures? Don't think there is much you can do about that.

[Anonymous]

I had to have this conversation with my mom. I was ok with her posting when her profile was private, but then she (inadvertently? changed it to public) and somehow wasn't noticing (not sure how) that there were weird people liking photos of her grandchildren. I just assumed she was clueless about SM, I was right and I had to step her through the process.

Now if I didn't want her to post at all, I'd literally just say that. You're the parent, it's your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to have this conversation with my mom. I was ok with her posting when her profile was private, but then she (inadvertently? changed it to public) and somehow wasn't noticing (not sure how) that there were weird people liking photos of her grandchildren. I just assumed she was clueless about SM, I was right and I had to step her through the process.

Now if I didn't want her to post at all, I'd literally just say that. You're the parent, it's your choice.

She has no choice. It’s her ex-MIL. She has no control over her.

[Anonymous]

Definitely say something. Be really nice about it and explain your reasons. Since you are divorced from her kid, you have to be more delicate because if he’s approved it, there’s probably nothing you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely say something. Be really nice about it and explain your reasons. Since you are divorced from her kid, you have to be more delicate because if he’s approved it, there’s probably nothing you can do about it.

I don’t think she has any reasons except control. Some immature parents have this “it’s mine, you can’t post pictures of it” mentality. Do you really think that anyone is looking at her page and specifically at your ordinary child? They are too busy looking at Beyonce's kids or Kardashian kids.