Have you ever reconnected with an old flame? What was it like?

[Anonymous]

What if? Versus.
what would?

Only one has an actual answer.

[Anonymous]

Not a former boyfriend, but the one who got away. We both would have wanted something with each other but there was always someone else in the picture.

Recently reconnected after twenty years and it felt very intense. Hasn’t gone anywhere definite yet due to circumstances but we are both single, so I think we have an opening now.

Don’t see any harm in meeting, you’ll know soon enough how you both feel.

[Anonymous]

Dated my 1st real love for 5 years, from freshman year in college all the way thru and beyond. I had commitment issues and we went our separate ways. We both married and had children, me two and she one.
Fast forward 25 years and we ran into each other at the mall one day. I was divorced and she was widowed, also losing her daughter. We had coffee that day and talked for 2 hours. Met the next week for coffee and then almost daily thereafter as our friendship renewed.
About 6-8 months later we had a real date and became exclusive. Today we live together and are deeply in love.
So yes, it can work out (we’ve been together about 14 years) but I think it’s more the exception than the rule.

[Anonymous]

There's no real downside here OP. You're both single! It's dangerous if circumstances are different. But this sounds awesome -- have fun!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dated my 1st real love for 5 years, from freshman year in college all the way thru and beyond. I had commitment issues and we went our separate ways. We both married and had children, me two and she one.
Fast forward 25 years and we ran into each other at the mall one day. I was divorced and she was widowed, also losing her daughter. We had coffee that day and talked for 2 hours. Met the next week for coffee and then almost daily thereafter as our friendship renewed.
About 6-8 months later we had a real date and became exclusive. Today we live together and are deeply in love.
So yes, it can work out (we’ve been together about 14 years) but I think it’s more the exception than the rule.

That's beautiful PP, apart from the sad circumstances. Thanks for sharing this one.

[Anonymous]

College girlfriend, first serious relationship for both of us, called me five years after the breakup. We met up and spent an afternoon talking. She asked a lot of questions. How did you feel when we broke up? Why didn't we go the distance? Were you really in love? Went out a couple of times later, but it was a disaster. Personally, I would rather start fresh with a new person and write our own story, not edit what has already happened.

[Anonymous]

We dated throughout college but ended it when our paths post graduation were going to be very different. Circumstances led us to meet again about seven years later and we were both not in relationships and my expectation was high but there was no sizzle. We had really grown differently and there was no going back.

[Anonymous]

There’s a 99% chance that the memory will far outshine the present reality, but hey, why not give it a shot?

[Anonymous]

Go for it. Life’s too short.

[Anonymous]

Never had that many exciting men around me. None were exciting until my mid 40s which is now.
That six month fling was hot, but it has fizzled out. Had it been just that six months, I would be eager to reconnect too, and we both developed deep feelings.

[Anonymous]

No. They all have personality disorders so I am happy to be rid of them.

Every few years one of them enters my nightmares and I am running away from him.