Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sweet puppy love when you’re love sick with your first gf or bf…can you have strong feels like that when you’re 30+?

If this is your first gf or bf then of course. Even, if you've had several experiences, its still possible at some levels.

[Anonymous]

Just like chronologically numbers change, same way every decade changes us, physically, mentally, financially and socially.

[Anonymous]

No

Be serious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did at 45 with a man outside my marriage. I didnt want to. But it became quite clear to me that love is kind of this crazy cocktail of chemicals that makes you feel amazing and crazy and bonds you to someone. It’s not magic, it’s not even really real. My guess is that feeling is what you are talking about, OP. Which is different than the love I have for my DH (with whom I also had the crazy chemistry a lifetime ago) and different from the love I have for my kids which is just in my bones.

What happened?

[Anonymous]

No. You can only do that once.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it can happen at any age.

[Anonymous]

Hm. Maybe ?…but if you are 31 and no kids it doesn’t count. Like after divorce and kids is different than a never married 35 year old.

I think the realities of life make it harder. But it can happen.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s definitely possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happens in romance novels all the time. Usually, he’s like a Scottish Highlander or something.

Did you also just finish reading Kilt Trip 😅

[Anonymous]

Sure. But do you really want that?
I much prefer head firmly on shoulders love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hm. Maybe ?…but if you are 31 and no kids it doesn’t count. Like after divorce and kids is different than a never married 35 year old.

I think the realities of life make it harder. But it can happen.

I'm dating a 35 yr old man very very attractive. He was married before but he cheated on her. He says he never loved someone like he loves me. I've never been married and no kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happens in romance novels all the time. Usually, he’s like a Scottish Highlander or something.

That's so funny because I just read a novel in which the main character fell for a Scottish Highlander.

Yes, totally possible, even if you have been burned before. I had been in a horrible relationship and then met my spouse. Some can be hopeless romantics even if they have been through a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did at 45 with a man outside my marriage. I didnt want to. But it became quite clear to me that love is kind of this crazy cocktail of chemicals that makes you feel amazing and crazy and bonds you to someone. It’s not magic, it’s not even really real. My guess is that feeling is what you are talking about, OP. Which is different than the love I have for my DH (with whom I also had the crazy chemistry a lifetime ago) and different from the love I have for my kids which is just in my bones.

What happened?

It ended when he moved away. I entered therapy. Didn’t tell my spouse (I have a child and didn’t want to blow up our family). Have done some very hard work on myself and on my marriage so I won’t be in that position ever again.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a teenager, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did at 45 with a man outside my marriage. I didnt want to. But it became quite clear to me that love is kind of this crazy cocktail of chemicals that makes you feel amazing and crazy and bonds you to someone. It’s not magic, it’s not even really real. My guess is that feeling is what you are talking about, OP. Which is different than the love I have for my DH (with whom I also had the crazy chemistry a lifetime ago) and different from the love I have for my kids which is just in my bones.

What happened?

It ended when he moved away. I entered therapy. Didn’t tell my spouse (I have a child and didn’t want to blow up our family). Have done some very hard work on myself and on my marriage so I won’t be in that position ever again.

I’m glad to hear you were able to work through it. I’ve been in a similar position and it is quite hard.