How did you cope after miscarriage?

[Anonymous]

I am saddened by you loss. www.silentgrief.com has been a tremendous support for me (and DH) during the course of 4 miscarriage thru even today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just wanted to say that I am sorry and that I feel your pain. I had a miscarriage earlier this year at 7 weeks and I was quite sad for a few weeks. We got pregnant quickly thereafter but have had a first trimester filled with complications. I am just starting my second trimester now and I am still haunted by my miscarriage. I am convinced that I am going to miscarry again any day now and am not enjoying a single second of this pregnancy. I kind of wish I had given myself some time to heal (emotionally) before getting pregnant again.

I had lost a pregnancy at 14 weeks and it was 8 years before I got pregnant again. I was so sure I was going to loose that one too. Since I had lost one at the very beginning of the second trimester, I couldn't' feel any relief when I had finally gotten that far. It wasn't until I was 34-35 weeks that I was truly able to let go and enjoy it. It was difficult to admit to myself that it needed to be done and that I would be fine and that everything would turn out well. I don't think it was how quickly you got pregnant again that is causing you to feel the this way. I think it's a completely normal reaction because you have suffered a loss first hand.

I only waited a few months after my child was born before getting pregnant again. I enjoyed that pregnancies and truly believed, from the begining, that everything would be fine. It was.