Sent home from summer camp

[Anonymous]

If they gave you that big a discount, I wouldn’t ask for a refund.

Consider that your daughter may be lying to you because she’s embarrassed or doesn’t want to get into trouble. She will tell you that she’s not lying to you. I don’t know what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t cutting. She was scratching herself with her other arm. It was very superficial, hardly noticeable. Cat scratches look much worse.

This is absurd OP the camp is corrrect here.

You are the problem.

It’s camp it’s not school big difference this is not a hill to die on.
Nor is it productive for your child.

You are not admitting your child needs more help .

[Anonymous]

The letter is way too long. Also, I would take this out:

She will have disappointments, in her life, but summer camp should never have been one of them.

Your argument has to be that she was safe to stay at camp under the particular circumstances, not that she should never be disappointed by camp no matter what.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to be very careful about what message you are sending to your daughter. I understand you want to stand up for her rights, but it sounds like she was not cooperating and was disrespectful with the staff and that is part of the issue. Having disabilities does not entitle her to be disrespectful or shirk authority. She needs to take responsibility for her part in the situation (her reaction to the counselor) so she can be empowered to do better next time. not requiring her to be responsible for her reactions while at the same time claiming she is not a risk to herself is inconsistent and puts the camp is an impossible situation. Have her write a letter of apology to the counselor where she’s very honest about her reaction and ways she is working on it. Do not ask for a refund. Instead ask that they accept her back next year. Play the long game in empowering your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine the letter if they had readmitted her to camp and she harmed herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t cutting. She was scratching herself with her other arm. It was very superficial, hardly noticeable. Cat scratches look much worse.

This is absurd OP the camp is corrrect here.

You are the problem.

It’s camp it’s not school big difference this is not a hill to die on.
Nor is it productive for your child.

You are not admitting your child needs more help .

Why are you disbelieving the OP? I can totally believe the scenario laid out here.

[Anonymous]

She should return to the camp next year if it's her happy place. Eat the loss, explain to you dd that the camp had her best interests at hearts ane focus on getting her the help she needs. Your upset is misguided.

[Anonymous]

Way too many commas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your letter is way too long. You need to decide if it’s a letter to get a refund or a letter to express your frustrations. Right now it’s trying to do both, and not doing either very well.

For a refund, the focus is that you were told she could return with a medical clearance. You got a medical clearance, but we’re still not able to return. The camp is a financial challenge for you, and you respectfully request a refund of the cost of the missed time. If there’s any refund policy you can cite to support your request, add it.

Once the refund is issued, then write a letter expressing your concerns and frustrations about how your daughter was treated.

This. Cut your text way down, make your writing more concise.

Another agree. If you hadn’t prefaced up front that you were sending an email asking for a refund I would have had no idea where you were going with it. I get your have a lot of thoughts going through your head, but you need to separate them out.

Also I’d pause and think about if you plan to send her back there next summer or not. If you do want to send her, I would be careful not to burn bridges with complaints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t cutting. She was scratching herself with her other arm. It was very superficial, hardly noticeable. Cat scratches look much worse.

This is absurd OP the camp is corrrect here.

You are the problem.

It’s camp it’s not school big difference this is not a hill to die on.
Nor is it productive for your child.

You are not admitting your child needs more help .

Why are you disbelieving the OP? I can totally believe the scenario laid out here.

Not PP but OP is completely downplaying the situation. Being cleared with the recommendation of frequent check ins isn’t being cleared. It’s being cleared with accommodations that the camp was not prepared to handle - and that’s no surprise after a self harm incident.

I went through this with school, which is staffed with mostly professionals who are long out of HS and have a lot of life experience. When my child self harmed, medical clearance was required. When the medical clearance was with caveats, my child was not readmitted. A new placement was found. Camp is staffed with HS kids. They are not competent to handle this sort of evaluation and handling a situation where a check in results in a thumbs down.

[Anonymous]

I would be grateful the camp sent the message that self harm is really serious and not fully complying with the checks is unacceptable. They have to be so so careful. You are down playing it by saying if she bit her nails it would be fine. If she bit her nails then she would not have visible marks on her skin. Apples and oranges. Take it seriously. I hope your daughter is getting treatment at home.

I lost a sibling to suicide after years of self harm which I now know were inadequately handled.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your DD learns a valuable lesson over this. You’re on a discounted price, just walk away. The camp knows better about the situation and if they can handle it. They can’t, so there’s really nothing more to say or do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t cutting. She was scratching herself with her other arm. It was very superficial, hardly noticeable. Cat scratches look much worse.

Mom you’re in denial. This is how it starts.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry that feelings are hurt. But it sounds like the camp didn’t feel like it could meet her safety needs. Better they acknowledge that now rather than your daughter hurt herself. I think you’d be much more upset if Your daughter caused serious harm to herself at camp.

[Anonymous]

Put yourself in the camp's shoes. If something were to happen and your daughter harmed herself again, they would be liable. You would be furious and trying to sue them for negligence. They would need additional supervision for your daughter, who btw isn't even paying full price for the camp. Who would pay for that additional supervision?

Lastly, if your daughter was scratching herself due to anxiety, why do you think it would be a good idea for her to go back there?