Dating and seeing two men at the same time

[Anonymous]

OP is not “dating” a second guy! She hadn’t even met him .

[Anonymous]

Devils 3some possibility?

[Anonymous]

People are so gross nowadays

[Anonymous]

The word is monogamous

[Anonymous]

OP, have you met the first guy in person?

I met my boyfriend on OLD. I went on a first date with 3 or 4 men, a second date with 2 men, and a 3rd date with the same 2 men. I kissed both men after dates 2 and 3, maybe there was some over-the-clothes petting.

If you had asked me after date 1, I would not have thought my bf would be the one I would choose, I almost cancelled our 2nd date bc the other guy was hotter. But my bf is an amazing man and our chemistry is amazing.

Please, give these men time to show you who they are. You are in no way obligated to choose at this time.

[Anonymous]

DADT, enjoy your time with these men. It's not serious yet with either. They are probably also chatting and going out with other women.

No need to bring this up until you want to get exclusive with one of them.

[Anonymous]

If you’re sexting with a guy before meeting in person, I doubt he’s looking for more than a hookup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re sexting with a guy before meeting in person, I doubt he’s looking for more than a hookup.

OP here. I guess I will find out. I am not interested in being a hook up or a FWB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it's sleazy, which is why you posted.

Oh please. Keep your moralist judge ess to yourself PP.

Date both, OP. You will know the right time to make one of the men exclusive.

Be as sleazy as you want, but pretending you aren’t is just tacky. Fly your freak flag with pride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in the early stages of dating, and am connecting with two men at the same time, but have only been physical with one of them. The first one is so sweet, has a kind heart, and is so handsome. He is a body builder, and works construction. I am also chatting, and sexting, with a second person, who is also very genuine, funny, sporty, and handsome. We haven’t met in person yet, but we both have soccer in common, and he is an electrical engineer, and he is super smart and sexy. I can tell that I have more sexual chemistry with the second person. I don’t live in the same city as both of them, but close enough.

I am a novice at this stuff. At what point do you need to decide between which one? And do you tell them about the school other? Neither of the men have discussed exclusivity with me yet. I am a monogynous person at heart, and I feel badly for juggling two men.

You have more sexual chemistry with someone you haven’t even met? Oooookkkaaay..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it's sleazy, which is why you posted.

Oh please. Keep your moralist judge ess to yourself PP.

Date both, OP. You will know the right time to make one of the men exclusive.

Be as sleazy as you want, but pretending you aren’t is just tacky. Fly your freak flag with pride.

Seriously, what is your problem. Are you some born-again-Christian virgin who married the only person you slept with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in the early stages of dating, and am connecting with two men at the same time, but have only been physical with one of them. The first one is so sweet, has a kind heart, and is so handsome. He is a body builder, and works construction. I am also chatting, and sexting, with a second person, who is also very genuine, funny, sporty, and handsome. We haven’t met in person yet, but we both have soccer in common, and he is an electrical engineer, and he is super smart and sexy. I can tell that I have more sexual chemistry with the second person. I don’t live in the same city as both of them, but close enough.

I am a novice at this stuff. At what point do you need to decide between which one? And do you tell them about the school other? Neither of the men have discussed exclusivity with me yet. I am a monogynous person at heart, and I feel badly for juggling two men.

You have more sexual chemistry with someone you haven’t even met? Oooookkkaaay..

Yeah there might be no chemistry in person.