Dating and seeing two men at the same time

[Anonymous]

I am in the early stages of dating, and am connecting with two men at the same time, but have only been physical with one of them. The first one is so sweet, has a kind heart, and is so handsome. He is a body builder, and works construction. I am also chatting, and sexting, with a second person, who is also very genuine, funny, sporty, and handsome. We haven’t met in person yet, but we both have soccer in common, and he is an electrical engineer, and he is super smart and sexy. I can tell that I have more sexual chemistry with the second person. I don’t live in the same city as both of them, but close enough.

I am a novice at this stuff. At what point do you need to decide between which one? And do you tell them about the school other? Neither of the men have discussed exclusivity with me yet. I am a monogynous person at heart, and I feel badly for juggling two men.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing here for you to juggle if you haven’t even met the second guy. I had a hot and heavy phone/sexting romance for 3 months with a guy from another city. It faded before we met

[Anonymous]

As far as you know, #2 could be a catfish. Don’t worry about it until you meet. Then date both until you decide which you prefer

[Anonymous]

I really needed to hear the above two posts. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

You know it's sleazy, which is why you posted.

[Anonymous]

This is dating, and seems fine. This is how you determine if you LIKE like somebody. So as a courtesy just make sure they know you are still in the dating phase, you are not exclusive.

[Anonymous]

I just wanted to say that only time will tell if these guys are kind and genuine. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

OP, do you care if they are both dating other women? Both likely are, including the one you have a physical relationship with now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know it's sleazy, which is why you posted.

Ignore this grandma

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know it's sleazy, which is why you posted.

Oh please. Keep your moralist judge ess to yourself PP.

Date both, OP. You will know the right time to make one of the men exclusive.

[Anonymous]

I think the automatic assumption is that everyone is dating multiple partners pending any exclusivity agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the automatic assumption is that everyone is dating multiple partners pending any exclusivity agreement.

Yup

[Anonymous]

Things like this get you posted in the AWDTSG FB page and trashed.

So if I weee to follow there methodology then we should post your info and put this next to your name 🚩🚩🚩 then get a committee of people to trash you.


Just be honest with them on what you’re doing and let them make the decision on whether they want to put in effort especially knowing you’re being sexually explicit with multiple people. Otherwise find one and see how it goes. But who am I to say what you do? You’ll figure it out soon enough I’m guessing

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sks0x_GJIDs

[Anonymous]

A lot of women do this. They are probably doing it to you too. Just don't lie and try to be considerate of their feelings.

The hard part is how much information to share. You might want to get out in front and say something. "Hey, we are both seeing other people to, at least for now, right?"

You might want to share more details, and he might ask. Some people want to know appearance, race, job, age, and even names. Some people don't care about this stuff. Some people think ignorance is bliss.