Attending ExMIL funeral

[Anonymous]

My dad’s ex wife went to his mom’s funeral. My dad died when I was a kid and we had no idea he had been married before until this woman was mentioned at the funeral. They had no kids but she had a child before they married and he helped raise that child for years (then he died). My sibling first asked “do we have a half sibling?” Because we saw this young woman with my dad’s exwife and my uncle joked it was my half sibling (it isn’t). It was very traumatic for us.

If your ex says it’s ok go but if he has kids maybe just send flowers or a nice card. My sibling and I to this day talk about how awful this funeral was. Our mom also died young and no one in my mom’s family knew he had a first wife and my dad’s family never told us until this funeral.

If you go go and leave don’t stay for the meal. This first wife stayed with her adult child and they tried to play house with us. I left my own grandmother’s funeral because I felt so uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Sit towards the back but by all means go.