Fighting with husband over MIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is right. Give her less information in general so she has fewer opinions to give. For example, dont' tell her which vaccines the baby got at the doctor today and that way she can't tell you that now your baby will have autism from one of them. Be more vague.

OP here. My husband invites her over. She will give out her “ concerns” during the time she is here. It’s everything from how we feed him to how we hold him too much. Now she thinks she can weigh in on me going back to work.

"That's between DH and I."

[Anonymous]

It took my in-laws about 5-7 years to realize “I am the Captain now!” Then they finally backed off. They are still nosy and opinionated but nothing like before and our relationship is much better now…I’ve known them 23 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a decent relationship with my MIL who thinks her opinions are facts. She has been very opinionated about our parenting with our first child and her first grandchild. She feels the need to
“ correct” many things I do, along with sticking her nose in a situation that doesn’t involve her. I blew up at my husband over it and now we are fighting. He has stuck up for me and our parenting choices, but still wants me to just ignore it and not cause a rift. I’m upset with my husband over this, and he’s upset with me because I politely told my MIL to back off. How do couples manage relationships with in-laws?

How, you might ask? The spouse puts their foot down and tells their parent to back off and shut their mouth. Sounds like your husband is too much of a pu$$y to stand up to Mama.

[Anonymous]

My husband and his brother were pretty bad kids and one is a bad adult so when my MIL gives me parenting advice in a judgy way, I just laugh it off and tell her I probably shouldn’t take her advice because look at her kids. She hates it and says stuff less and less. Otherwise, just ignore it and try not to take things so personally. She’s your husband’s mother and one day you will be a MIL -

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"Thanks for sharing, but I got this." Repeat as needed.

[Anonymous]

I’d ask her out of genuine curiosity if her parents or in-laws weighed in a lot with advice when she started her family.

[Anonymous]

“I don’t want to hear your opinions, so if you want to share them, talk to Ted.”

“Oh, like I said, I don’t want to hear your opinions, so if you want to share them, talk to Ted.”

“Oh, did you forget? I’m not interested in unsolicited advice, so you’re going to have to talk to Ted.”

“Mary, did you forget again? I’m starting to worry about you. Anyway, I’ll get Ted so you can share all your unsolicited advice with him.”

“Hey Ted, your mom has another opinion that I’m not interested in hearing. Come talk to her if you want unsolicited advice.”