What is a "situationship"?

[Anonymous]

You are lonely so you take whatever is available but know its not something you want forever.

[Anonymous]

Ethically its wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ethically its wrong.

I disagree. Humans are social animals and do well in pairs though that is certainly not 100% true. I have a partner I don’t live with but we bet along very well, enjoy our time together and we have a very good sex life. But I like my independence and alone time and I have no desire to be making every life decision together. I’ve done that and once is enough. My adult children think my situation is ideal for me and I’m happy with that.

[Anonymous]

I’m 60+ and this is my situation. Mr. Right Now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a Gen-Xer I’ll weigh in with an admittedly cis-gendered and somewhat sexist opinion:

For guys it’s a current/culturally acceptable way to have casual sex with the same person but not commit and keep scouting for new partners.

For women, it’s a way to talk yourself into having regular sex with the same person but not hold that person to actual partnership standards, in hopes that it evolves into an actual relationship.

In other words it’s a TikTok term for behavior as old as time that typically puts women at a disadvantage.

Yes I’m aware it all sounds rather arcane.

You hit the nail on the head!

[Anonymous]

Gen z is messed up in the head

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a Gen-Xer I’ll weigh in with an admittedly cis-gendered and somewhat sexist opinion:

For guys it’s a current/culturally acceptable way to have casual sex with the same person but not commit and keep scouting for new partners.

For women, it’s a way to talk yourself into having regular sex with the same person but not hold that person to actual partnership standards, in hopes that it evolves into an actual relationship.

In other words it’s a TikTok term for behavior as old as time that typically puts women at a disadvantage.

Yes I’m aware it all sounds rather arcane.

Elder millennial woman here and this is accurate.

[Anonymous]

It’s a relationship but one or both people in it are in denial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the definition that a situationship is where one party wants a relationship and the other not-so-much but the one is holding out hope so won’t break it off. (Can also be the stage that is pre-relationship definition so there is ambiguity or confusion about whether it’s a relationship or a hookup that has grown into a bit more.)

A FWB is mutually agreed non-relationship.

+1. When it’s the pre-relationship stage this would be akin to back in the day when we would say someone was “talking to” the other person. I’m later end of Gen X and in college if you knew the person you were interested in was talking to someone else you knew there was a chance they might officially start dating or agree upon a FWB but either way it could be a messy situation to make your move.

[Anonymous]

I’ve wondered about whether I’m in a situationship. Dated for 1.5 years, monogamous, but not actively planning engagement/ marriage. We love each other and we are exclusive, but we don’t feel we are each other’s soul mates…but we enjoy each other’s company, go on vacations, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve wondered about whether I’m in a situationship. Dated for 1.5 years, monogamous, but not actively planning engagement/ marriage. We love each other and we are exclusive, but we don’t feel we are each other’s soul mates…but we enjoy each other’s company, go on vacations, etc.

Um, sounds like you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. This isn’t a situationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve wondered about whether I’m in a situationship. Dated for 1.5 years, monogamous, but not actively planning engagement/ marriage. We love each other and we are exclusive, but we don’t feel we are each other’s soul mates…but we enjoy each other’s company, go on vacations, etc.

Once you have had a conversation where you both agree you are not each others soulmates I don’t get how you stay together?

[Anonymous]

Basically it's dating (with or without sex) but not committed to each other.

[Anonymous]

It is what my now husband and I had for about 2 years. Then we figured out we really wanted to be together. And that was over 20 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an older millennial who didn't grow up in a sexualized woke era I'm still trying to understand the under 35 crowd. What is a situationship? Is it hooking up? I see a lot of younger people saying they're in a situationship. How is that different from relationship?

It’s banging someone on the regular but you aren’t exclusive and there are no feelings or expectations. So if you have a guy whose penis you allow to be inside your vagina regularly but he goes home after, that’s a situationship. Maybe he comes back the next night, maybe he finds another lady in which to drain his balls.