What is a "situationship"?
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Anonymous
| As an older millennial who didn't grow up in a sexualized woke era I'm still trying to understand the under 35 crowd. What is a situationship? Is it hooking up? I see a lot of younger people saying they're in a situationship. How is that different from relationship? |
Anonymous
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It's hooking up and catching feelings. It's the confusing swirl of emotions and short-term thinking of a potential relationship. It's where hearts get broken and herpes spread.
----------------- A "situationship" is a term used to describe a romantic or intimate relationship that lacks clear definitions or commitments typically associated with traditional romantic relationships. It refers to a connection between two people that falls somewhere between a friendship and a committed partnership. In a situationship, the individuals involved may engage in romantic or sexual activities, spend time together, and exhibit behaviors commonly seen in romantic relationships. However, they may not have explicitly defined the nature of their relationship or established clear expectations regarding exclusivity, long-term commitment, or future plans. It can involve a level of ambiguity or uncertainty regarding the romantic or emotional status of the relationship. |
Anonymous
It’s more serious than a hookup or a friends-with-benefits situation. But it can’t be called a relationship—normally because of other circumstances besides a conscious decision to not commit. (Because if it were a conscious decision to not commit then it would be a friends with benefits situation). |
Anonymous
| We had them, we just didn’t call it “a situationship.” It was hooking up or an “It’s Complicated” status on Facebook. |
Anonymous
| A spectrum between casually hooking up occasionally and both parties being fine with that to being in a relationship without the official label. Usually with one party wanting the label and the other one not. |
Anonymous
| It's a friend with benefits. |
Anonymous
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Agree with the definition that a situationship is where one party wants a relationship and the other not-so-much but the one is holding out hope so won’t break it off. (Can also be the stage that is pre-relationship definition so there is ambiguity or confusion about whether it’s a relationship or a hookup that has grown into a bit more.)
A FWB is mutually agreed non-relationship. |
Anonymous
| Chances are it’s a term someone came up with and trademarked to make money. Early on, most of us had relationships that were about fun, companionship, sex and then they ran their course. I had three of those before I met my husband and at no point did I see them as marriage partners. I was in my early 20s and enjoying life. |
Anonymous
| What is Google? I think OP may be from the Greatest generation not the Millennial generation. |
Anonymous
| It's me being an idiot in the 1980s by hooking up with someone who was never going to be a relationship match,but fooling myself into thinking it would change and wasting my time while I should have been putting my energy into finding a potential mate. Nothing under the sun is new. Sure this was done when Caesar was around |
Anonymous
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As a Gen-Xer I’ll weigh in with an admittedly cis-gendered and somewhat sexist opinion:
For guys it’s a current/culturally acceptable way to have casual sex with the same person but not commit and keep scouting for new partners. For women, it’s a way to talk yourself into having regular sex with the same person but not hold that person to actual partnership standards, in hopes that it evolves into an actual relationship. In other words it’s a TikTok term for behavior as old as time that typically puts women at a disadvantage. Yes I’m aware it all sounds rather arcane. |
Anonymous
| It’s what happens when you don’t want to/are afraid to DTR |
Anonymous
| It’s a non exclusive relationship. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Proximity syndrome but still browsing Tinder. |