My 27 year old daughter has no life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one said this was being an introvert.

The op would not have written 27 years later concerned that a loved one has quit on life, stays home, has no friends, if that was the consistent pattern for 27 years.

What changed? What was the catalyst for this isolation?

Sorry, no. Family can be obvlivious and insensitive. Happens all the time.

[Anonymous]

Op if she hasn't moved out, you've failed.

[Anonymous]

Point being, you should not know enough about her coming and going to really have any opinion at all.

If she's not financially independent, you have a big problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No friends or SO, never goes out, just stays home. It makes me sad for her.

Did she finish her education and has a job? Lives with you?

[Anonymous]

Every parent should be able relate to parental concerns of other parents, even if they've not experienced it themselves, one can put themselves in other's shoes and have empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she sad for herself? Or is she content and just making different choices than you would?

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one said this was being an introvert.

The op would not have written 27 years later concerned that a loved one has quit on life, stays home, has no friends, if that was the consistent pattern for 27 years.

What changed? What was the catalyst for this isolation?

Sorry, no. Family can be obvlivious and insensitive. Happens all the time.

Unfortunately, yes.

[Anonymous]

Being an introvert does not mean you sit at home alone all day. Or when not at work. Honestly quit using that as an excuse.


I’d be concerned too, op. But not sure there is anything you can do. She’s an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one said this was being an introvert.

The op would not have written 27 years later concerned that a loved one has quit on life, stays home, has no friends, if that was the consistent pattern for 27 years.

What changed? What was the catalyst for this isolation?

Sorry, no. Family can be obvlivious and insensitive. Happens all the time.

Irrelevant. Op, if not a troll, needs to state if her child of 27 years was always like this or only recently like this.

[Anonymous]

You don't know how many times I have asked and be nice to my sister when growing up to fine a steady job, depend on herself and be independent. She's 40 now. Still live at home with my mom. It's all our fault for making it easy for her. But, i can't dwell on that. The past can't be changed. But, now we know she has a mental illness. She can't seem to move on and now blames all of us for her situation. She can't seem to move on. And she knows she wants to but just can't see do turn that page. But, she will never say she has a problem or accept help in any way.

SOOO, OP. Try to get her to be financially independent. Go be productive. Go this route or you will have alot of problems later on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't know how many times I have asked and be nice to my sister when growing up to fine a steady job, depend on herself and be independent. She's 40 now. Still live at home with my mom. It's all our fault for making it easy for her. But, i can't dwell on that. The past can't be changed. But, now we know she has a mental illness. She can't seem to move on and now blames all of us for her situation. She can't seem to move on. And she knows she wants to but just can't see do turn that page. But, she will never say she has a problem or accept help in any way.

SOOO, OP. Try to get her to be financially independent. Go be productive. Go this route or you will have alot of problems later on.

You should have your mom tell you the truth about any mental disorders in the family and with your sister.

Every time this happens the matriarch keeps the reason as a family secret

[Anonymous]

You could encourage her to try new things. A book club, a gym, a beginners running club, pottery, anything. If she literally does not go out any day and does not have any joy in her life she may be depressed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No friends or SO, never goes out, just stays home. It makes me sad for her.

Sounds like she’s living the dream, OP. I’d love to get back to a life where I had no obligations like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No friends or SO, never goes out, just stays home. It makes me sad for her.

Sounds like she’s living the dream, OP. I’d love to get back to a life where I had no obligations like that.

Scrolling on TikTok all day is not the dream. This is what my socially isolated 21 DD does in her free time.
And free time.... Don't let her have it. We started charging her rent - $200 a week on weeks where she does not keep busy at least 40 hours. And it's worked on our end, in terms of getting her out of house. She works in a coffee shop and goes to CC part time.
She does have a boyfriend, but he is actually lazier than her, but at least it's someone.

[Anonymous]

Has Op given us any useful information? No