Time with boyfriend/girlfriend

[Anonymous]

I discourage this at such a young age, so zero

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Anonymous wrote:As much as they can. We don't let them out of school, job, family or volunteer obligations. We've had big talks about how boyfriends/girlfriends come and go but friends last forever (not really, but the point is, don't ditch all your friends for an SO).

Not really. How friends from high school are you still in regular communication with and see with any frequency?

Both DH and I are still very much in touch with our HS friends, they make up our core group.

But, I also met DH in HS and married him, and we spent (almost) every waking moment together from like 16-20. So I do see both sides here. Friend time should still be important, but it's not really a parents place to pull strings in childs relationships.

I think you are a minority, especially if you don’t happen to live in your hometown/state. My DH, me, and most of my current friends aren’t in touch with people from HS. I was reasonably popular too and had great friends. I meet up with one maybe once per year and get a Christmas card from a couple more. Most aren’t local anymore, including me.

[Anonymous]

They spent all their free time together for the first 9 months of their relationship, now they still see each other daily but spend lots of time apart. I don't really worry about it either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I discourage this at such a young age, so zero

+1

[Anonymous]

Free time when they aren't doing: homework, sports practice, required family time, anything else required - all . The answer is all.

That's my ds too. Dh is very bothered by it. I also feel like it is SO much time, like aren't they tired of each other? But maybe it's normal.

I was this teenager. It turned out alright.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I discourage this at such a young age, so zero

Such a young age? You don't allow your 16 or 17 year old to have a boyfriend or girlfriend at all?

[Anonymous]

Any luck in putting them to work?

Are they willing to do chores together? Learn how to be a properly mated pair?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Free time when they aren't doing: homework, sports practice, required family time, anything else required - all . The answer is all.

That's my ds too. Dh is very bothered by it. I also feel like it is SO much time, like aren't they tired of each other? But maybe it's normal.

Maybe if your DH had someone he was happy to spend time with, who want tired of him, he wouldn't be so envious of his son's relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Free time when they aren't doing: homework, sports practice, required family time, anything else required - all . The answer is all.

That's my ds too. Dh is very bothered by it. I also feel like it is SO much time, like aren't they tired of each other? But maybe it's normal.

What do you want them to do instead?

Hang out more with friends, relaxed alone a little...I worry that if the relationship ends ds will be very distraught and not know what to do.

Have you asked him to spend time with friends, with his girlfriend?
Does he hide his girlfriend from them?
Is one of them a pariah?

[Anonymous]

I count myself a little lucky that my son and his girlfriend have different schedules, so there are some times when I get to see him alone because she's at basketball, and times when her parents get to see her alone because he's at work.

But other than that, they're together. I do consider myself lucky that she will come to family gathering, so he still goes to those.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I worry that my junior and senior have not dated anyone but I guess it beats this. We see them a lot when they're not with their (same gender) friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Free time when they aren't doing: homework, sports practice, required family time, anything else required - all . The answer is all.

That's my ds too. Dh is very bothered by it. I also feel like it is SO much time, like aren't they tired of each other? But maybe it's normal.

Did you tire of sex when you were young?

[Anonymous]

I think my DD and her boyfriend really don't spend that much time together. They both have sports, friends, vacations, etc... and see each other when they can, but it's 1-2 times a week. Maybe it's because they don't drive yet?

[Anonymous]

A few times a week for 3-4 hours in summer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Free time when they aren't doing: homework, sports practice, required family time, anything else required - all . The answer is all.

That's my ds too. Dh is very bothered by it. I also feel like it is SO much time, like aren't they tired of each other? But maybe it's normal.