what does a sex therapist do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on what the problem is. Is it communication? Is one of you having difficulty completing? Is there a libido mismatch. Do you understand your own arousal patterns, if you’re partnered can you read theirs. It can be like couples counseling or coaching. There are some practitioners that teach you how to orgasm if you cannot.

This can’t be a real thing with licensing can it?

[Anonymous]

Let's say you're a guy who can't get any women to have sex with him, especially if they do have sex she won't do it again, and he's frustrated and wants to learn what he's doing wrong but how does he learn that? Maybe hookers, I don't know, but I can see where there is a market for women therapists who will teach a naive inexperienced guy what to do to actually please a woman. I would think that if the word got out about such a woman she could make a whole bundle of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you're a guy who can't get any women to have sex with him, especially if they do have sex she won't do it again, and he's frustrated and wants to learn what he's doing wrong but how does he learn that? Maybe hookers, I don't know, but I can see where there is a market for women therapists who will teach a naive inexperienced guy what to do to actually please a woman. I would think that if the word got out about such a woman she could make a whole bundle of money.

I’m pretty sure such women already exist….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you been to an individual or couples therapist who truly was knowledgeable and forthright about sex?

I’ve never remotely considered going to one - I’ve just seen people hear talking about it. I can’t imagine a workable relationship where you have to talk to someone else who is not your partner about sex. Seems like it defeats the point, unless you’re having sex with the therapist too.

Sincere question - why? Sex is a skill, and so much of what we know is misinformation and also based on other peoples experiences. And of course it is wrapped up in emotions, patterns etc.

Why wouldn’t someone knowledgeable about human sexuality be helpful to talk to to learn about yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you been to an individual or couples therapist who truly was knowledgeable and forthright about sex?

I’ve never remotely considered going to one - I’ve just seen people hear talking about it. I can’t imagine a workable relationship where you have to talk to someone else who is not your partner about sex. Seems like it defeats the point, unless you’re having sex with the therapist too.

Oh my goodness, you can’t imagine it! Then it must not be a real thing! Gosh I wish you could be available to solve all my dilemmas pp.

[Anonymous]

They teach you how to do it. Believe me, some people don't know to to do it. You don't learn how to do it in school. Your parents don't teach you how to do it. You just figure it how yourself by doing it. Or you watch porn and it teaches you the wrong thing.

If you are a man and you have difficulties staying up, or you are a 2 second man, they can teach you some techniques to improve your performance.

If you are a woman and can't enjoy it, they can help you figure out why and overcome it.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to burst everyone's bubble:

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/21/well/family/sex-therapy.html?unlocked_article_code=1.2E0.IPm-.i4p1Y6U_1Mpt&smid=url-share

From the article: "Sex therapy is not requiring you to have sex in front of your therapist. Sex therapy is talk therapy.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Refers you to a real psychologist for a neuropysch test.
Dude, she’s not going to just dig in teaching you new moves and trust falls. First she has to assess the level of abuse or games or hurt. Or outsource that.

Woot woot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think they give you mdma…or shrooms

A friend of mine has sex on mdma and she said real sex has never been the same since. She said she may have had 10 orgasms at least on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they give you mdma…or shrooms

A friend of mine has sex on mdma and she said real sex has never been the same since. She said she may have had 10 orgasms at least on it.

I've been with women who had that many in a session with no drugs involved.

[Anonymous]

Sex therapists are typically working on intimacy issues. Meaning if one partner has sexual trauma or if another has been cheating and those events are blocking intimacy therefore sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to burst everyone's bubble:

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/21/well/family/sex-therapy.html?unlocked_article_code=1.2E0.IPm-.i4p1Y6U_1Mpt&smid=url-share

From the article: "Sex therapy is not requiring you to have sex in front of your therapist. Sex therapy is talk therapy.”

This. People are confusing a sex therapist with a sex surrogate.

[Anonymous]

I think can help with getting over hang ups like fear of initiating by breaking g it into small steps/ wins

[Anonymous]

Teach you how to fxxck.