Possible divorce— create embryos or freeze my eggs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous to divorce with an 18 month old. Give it a year and then rethink. What an insane thing to think is the right decision at this time. Sorry, OP, but if it's "amicable" then he's not hitting you and you don't have enough of a reason to divorce with a toddler.

Honestly this, seek couples counselling, this marriage sounds hardly over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are thinking about getting a divorce. We have an 18-month-old that we had through IVF. We had 3 embryos, and she was lucky number 3 that stuck. I know I definitely want more kids. My husband is on board with creating more embryos with my eggs and his sperm. He says he wants our child to have a full biological sibling. He's a great dad and our divorce would likely be amicable, but I know it would still complicate things. I'm thinking maybe I should just freeze my eggs instead? I'm 35, so I feel like time is running out. What would you do?

Why on earth would you two divorce? You should stay together and have more babies as you see fit.

[Anonymous]

Why are you divorcing? Barring infidelity or abuse I’d wait till your kid is older. This is a tough age for many marriages.

[Anonymous]

Freeze your eggs asap. Every day counts.

[Anonymous]

I would think about the embryos thing from the legal perspective. He may change his mind and decide he’s against it and try to block you using them. Eggs are yours and he can’t say anything.

[Anonymous]

You want to have more kids with a man that you are about to divorce? Are you insane?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You want to have more kids with a man that you are about to divorce? Are you insane?

Apparently OP is really insane. Several respondents have come to that same conclusion.

What should OP do? 1) seek professional help for her mental illness and 2) don’t have any more offspring.

[Anonymous]

1. Save your marriage.
2. Worry about baby 2 later.

[Anonymous]

Go to therapy

[Anonymous]

Freeze the eggs. Don’t make another kid or embryo with a guy you want to divorce. He can freeze his sperm too. Preference for full bio siblings - why??? You will love the kid just as much either way, and the kids will love each other just as much either way. Do not further complicate your future choices by having another kid or even embryo with him. What a cluster.

[Anonymous]

1. Freeze eggs AND embryos. Eggs are more viable, but embryos are 100% yours.
2. Work on your marriage. That age is h*ll on the parents’ relationship. Seriously, personal counseling for you both, as that’s covered by insurance. Couple’s counseling if you can afford it.
3. It’s okay to be a one-child household. Truly. Your DC would rather you two have a good marriage than have a sibling with divorced parents.

[Anonymous]

So just doing math, freezing embryos is way more likely to be successful than egg freezing if your goal is just another baby. Embryo survival rate us higher than egg freezing rate.

TBH, though considering either when you already have a kid and are in the process of divorcing seems odd. Those aren't equivalent processes, either you have a kid with a specific person or you are trying to preserve a possibility of a kid later (though egg freezing isn't really the insurance policy it has been sold to be).

What are your basic goals here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Freeze eggs. Also know that the way you feel about your husband is common with young kids. It gets better.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just have another kid, quickly. Then divorce if you must. Don’t risk two kids with different dads.

Wow this site is messed up