Possible divorce— create embryos or freeze my eggs?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are thinking about getting a divorce. We have an 18-month-old that we had through IVF. We had 3 embryos, and she was lucky number 3 that stuck. I know I definitely want more kids. My husband is on board with creating more embryos with my eggs and his sperm. He says he wants our child to have a full biological sibling. He's a great dad and our divorce would likely be amicable, but I know it would still complicate things. I'm thinking maybe I should just freeze my eggs instead? I'm 35, so I feel like time is running out. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

What is the reason and likelihood for divorce?

[Anonymous]

Definitely freeze eggs.

[Anonymous]

Freeze eggs. Don't double down on a mistake, truly.

[Anonymous]

Worst time to consider divorce. Everyone I know has had a rough go after their first, and it can last several years. It doesn’t even sound like you are in divorce territory - who the hell wants to have more kids with someone they’re divorcing? I wouldn’t have more kids, but I also wouldn’t do what you’re suggesting to my living one.

[Anonymous]

Freeze eggs. Also know that the way you feel about your husband is common with young kids. It gets better.

[Anonymous]

don't do either until you sort out your divorce. you have a 18 month old. focus on your marriage and your kid.

[Anonymous]

Just have another kid, quickly. Then divorce if you must. Don’t risk two kids with different dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the reason and likelihood for divorce?

Considering this post, they seem crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just have another kid, quickly. Then divorce if you must. Don’t risk two kids with different dads.

Oh yeah because being a single parent of 2 under 3 is so easy.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous to divorce with an 18 month old. Give it a year and then rethink. What an insane thing to think is the right decision at this time. Sorry, OP, but if it's "amicable" then he's not hitting you and you don't have enough of a reason to divorce with a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the reason and likelihood for divorce?

Considering this post, they seem crazy.

+100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Worst time to consider divorce. Everyone I know has had a rough go after their first, and it can last several years. It doesn’t even sound like you are in divorce territory - who the hell wants to have more kids with someone they’re divorcing? I wouldn’t have more kids, but I also wouldn’t do what you’re suggesting to my living one.

This.

[Anonymous]

Create the embryos. Put off the divorce.

[Anonymous]

1. Does he want a biological sibling to the point he will financially support him/her?
2. In the event of divorce, do you basically want to immediately get back on the market and find another partner/marry/try for another baby before you turn 40 or 45? Would you go alone with a sperm donor? How useful is an egg to you unless you want to be 50 with a newborn or you're gonna use a sperm donor?
3. Is there any chance of salvaging this marriage and/or any reason to believe a new marriage would be a blank slate, especially with the added strain of a child from another marriage and apparent infertility?