Should I let my trans tween wear a binder?

[Anonymous]

My very androgynous daughter also swears by the Nike sports bras.

[Anonymous]

C at 11 sucks in general.

[Anonymous]

I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

[Anonymous]

Compression sports bra. She's probably being harassed by older boys or being made fun of by other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

You misunderstand. It’s your encouragement of her idea that she is trans that may potentially lead to some irreversible, life-ruining decisions.

I get it though, you’re a woke liberal mom and it’s super trendy and cool to have a trans kid. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

You misunderstand. It’s your encouragement of her idea that she is trans that may potentially lead to some irreversible, life-ruining decisions.

I get it though, you’re a woke liberal mom and it’s super trendy and cool to have a trans kid. Good luck.

NP here, I actually am a liberal mom. BTW woke is not the pejorative you think it is, all it means is that you are aware of and educated on social injustices. Anyway, the only part of your post I agree with is that 11 might be a tad young (re: trans) but definitely nothing wrong with buying a compression sports bra for someone who is more developed than her peers. It's not fun being (relatively) big chested amongst your peers. GL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

You misunderstand. It’s your encouragement of her idea that she is trans that may potentially lead to some irreversible, life-ruining decisions.

I get it though, you’re a woke liberal mom and it’s super trendy and cool to have a trans kid. Good luck.

Nobody’s talking about anything life altering. Even with my support they wouldn’t be able to undertake hormones or therapy until they’d had extensive psychotherapy.

My kid has had enough medical trauma in the past that they have 0 interest in medical interventions.

They do have a history of depression and neurodiversity that makes it incredibly important that I be supportive rather than heavy handed. Nothing like a parent negating your declarations of self to mess you up and alienate you further.

I don’t pretend to know what the future holds but I’m not going to box them into one potential outcome. I’m trying to be supportive and not prescriptive. We need to get this kid through middle and high school without further breakdowns. If I need to be flexible about bras and pronouns during that journey I’m very happy to do so. Bras and pronouns are small potatoes as far as I’m concerned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

You misunderstand. It’s your encouragement of her idea that she is trans that may potentially lead to some irreversible, life-ruining decisions.

I get it though, you’re a woke liberal mom and it’s super trendy and cool to have a trans kid. Good luck.

NP here, I actually am a liberal mom. BTW woke is not the pejorative you think it is, all it means is that you are aware of and educated on social injustices. Anyway, the only part of your post I agree with is that 11 might be a tad young (re: trans) but definitely nothing wrong with buying a compression sports bra for someone who is more developed than her peers. It's not fun being (relatively) big chested amongst your peers. GL.

Np. A sports bra is fine, but binders can actually be dangerous, especially to a developing body. They can cause permanent damage to the rib cage and breast tissue. Op should be careful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

You misunderstand. It’s your encouragement of her idea that she is trans that may potentially lead to some irreversible, life-ruining decisions.

I get it though, you’re a woke liberal mom and it’s super trendy and cool to have a trans kid. Good luck.

NP here, I actually am a liberal mom. BTW woke is not the pejorative you think it is, all it means is that you are aware of and educated on social injustices. Anyway, the only part of your post I agree with is that 11 might be a tad young (re: trans) but definitely nothing wrong with buying a compression sports bra for someone who is more developed than her peers. It's not fun being (relatively) big chested amongst your peers. GL.

Np. A sports bra is fine, but binders can actually be dangerous, especially to a developing body. They can cause permanent damage to the rib cage and breast tissue. Op should be careful.

PP here. Yes, agree. I should have said that as well. Please don't do a binder, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

You’re so right. My buying her a sports bra or binder is irreversible. Thanks for talking me down.

You misunderstand. It’s your encouragement of her idea that she is trans that may potentially lead to some irreversible, life-ruining decisions.

I get it though, you’re a woke liberal mom and it’s super trendy and cool to have a trans kid. Good luck.

NP here, I actually am a liberal mom. BTW woke is not the pejorative you think it is, all it means is that you are aware of and educated on social injustices. Anyway, the only part of your post I agree with is that 11 might be a tad young (re: trans) but definitely nothing wrong with buying a compression sports bra for someone who is more developed than her peers. It's not fun being (relatively) big chested amongst your peers. GL.

Np. A sports bra is fine, but binders can actually be dangerous, especially to a developing body. They can cause permanent damage to the rib cage and breast tissue. Op should be careful.

OP here. Thanks - that’s why I asked the question. I legitimately wanted to know the risks.

[Anonymous]

OP again - the underarmour compression sports bras are half the price of the Nike swoosh ones. Are they roundabout as good?

[Anonymous]

Can you talk to her about loving her body?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this post will be deleted but your daughter is only 11. She’s not trans, she’s feeling awkward about her body which is probably developing faster than her peers and her mental and emotional capacity to deal with it. Be an actual good parent and help her navigate the awkwardness (which MOST kids will experience to some degree or another around puberty) without potentially ruining her life.

If she still feels she’s trans at 18 then feel free to support her/him in that area then.

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OP ignore this post.
Please ignore ignorant people who have no idea what they are talking about