3yo not learning as much in daycare, move or keep for comfort?

[Anonymous]

I would choose the preschool with the warmest friendliest teachers, the happiest kids, plenty of outdoor time, lots of exploration, good routines, and transparency about things like how they handle it when students make bad choices. Letters and numbers are secondary to a million other things.

—former preschool teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS is very shy but advanced verbally and super smart for his age. His daycare is great, loving, and he's used to all the people there, but he's not learning new things. For example, when I get his little report card, it talks about how they're working on knowing the first letter of their name, but he already knows how to spell.

Should I be moving him to a place that will challenge him more or keep him for comfort? He's fairly shy so I don't want to disrupt things too much. Also, his card always says he "content" but he's not jumping around happy like he is at home or with his cousins.

I'm a FTM and really just want to do what's best for him but I have no idea what that is. Any insight much appreciated!

How can you be a FTM when your kid is in daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS is very shy but advanced verbally and super smart for his age. His daycare is great, loving, and he's used to all the people there, but he's not learning new things. For example, when I get his little report card, it talks about how they're working on knowing the first letter of their name, but he already knows how to spell.

Should I be moving him to a place that will challenge him more or keep him for comfort? He's fairly shy so I don't want to disrupt things too much. Also, his card always says he "content" but he's not jumping around happy like he is at home or with his cousins.

I'm a FTM and really just want to do what's best for him but I have no idea what that is. Any insight much appreciated!

Would highly suggest putting you advanced child in a NAEYC accredited preschool. I would ensure that they have a curriculum, while play based, doesn't mean they just "play all day" but that they are engaged. If the preschool cannot demonstrate it has a true curriculum, you are at a daycare, not a preschool. And before anyone decides to say "A NAEYC accredited preschool doesn't mean they are of a higher caliber" please go to the NEAYC site and look at the difficulty for a preschool to get accredited. It's not just about money for the accreditation, it's about being able to prove you have a high quality preschool program over many facets of programming- highly accredited staff, high quality curriculum, a lot of engagement of staff with students and parents, etc..

As a parent that also wanted the best for my children, that is the direction I went and it has served them tremendously in elementary school.

All this means exactly jack for kids. So ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

It is very easy to tell if your child is being engaged. What kinds of things does he bring home every week? What do you see the kids doing in the pictures they send? For me it is not about “academics” or learning vs play, it is about what kinds of activities they participate in. And this is dependent on the teacher and the school’s curriculum. A good teacher makes learning fun. Kids at that age don’t sit there and recite the alphabet or numbers all day. These things can be incorporated into activities such as nature hunts, science experiments, art projects, etc.

Play-based does not mean running around or playing with toys all day. But unfortunately this occurs very often. Good teachers will embed learning into all their activities. If you don’t see any evidence that your child’s daycare is providing him with engaging activities (work samples, art projects, & pictures), I suggest exploring other options. A report card is a teacher’s evaluation of your child’s skills. That by itself tells you nothing about whether school is boring or not. It also doesn’t tell you anything about whether a teacher is good or not. You should not rely on it alone to determine whether a place is a good fit. Look at the evidence and form your own opinions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS is very shy but advanced verbally and super smart for his age. His daycare is great, loving, and he's used to all the people there, but he's not learning new things. For example, when I get his little report card, it talks about how they're working on knowing the first letter of their name, but he already knows how to spell.

Should I be moving him to a place that will challenge him more or keep him for comfort? He's fairly shy so I don't want to disrupt things too much. Also, his card always says he "content" but he's not jumping around happy like he is at home or with his cousins.

I'm a FTM and really just want to do what's best for him but I have no idea what that is. Any insight much appreciated!

How can you be a FTM when your kid is in daycare?

First Time Mother

[Anonymous]

Keep him there! As a Montessori teacher, I opted to keep my daughter at her nurturing, fun home daycare until age 5, instead of sending her to my Montessori school.

[Anonymous]

Since that stupid kindergarten teacher back then said kids should know the alphabet before kindergarten, now kids are having lots of behavioral issues.
Because now childhood places focus on academics than teaching kids to regulate their emotions, learn socialization and more.
Some kids needs more help than others

Learning empathy is best than academics

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