Fussy, finicky people

[Anonymous]

Your Sister-in-Law sounds like a real peach OP.

IF having good conditioner (up to her standards at least!) was so important to her - then it was HER responsibility to make sure she brought enough of it to stay w/you.

She should not have just expected that you, her hostess would just automatically have some in stock!!

For her to act like a put out princess like that was unfair of her.
Talk about the guest from HE🏒🏒.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand people who try to make their high-maintenance, fussy, finicky ways someone else’s problem. If you maintain your own crazy, that’s great; I have a friend who is like that, she takes care of her own pickiness, no problem.

SIL is visiting and forgot conditioner. She came upstairs and said the guest bathroom conditioner “wouldn’t work for her,” and do we have “something better.” I showed her two more options and she made much of how no, nothing we have “works.” I shrugged and told her she can borrow my car if she wants to go to CVS. She’s put out and was asking me to double-check the house. No, babe, if your needs were that important, you would have packed your own. Here are the keys. Stop whining at me.

DH is currently gearing up to make us late to a gathering we have to drive more than an hour to get to because he is at the store buying ingredients for a cake he does not have time to make before we are supposed to depart. God forbid he go shopping last night or earlier today, no, it has to be done two hours before we have to leave. I told him just buy one of the Wegmans desserts, they look impressive and we know from experience that at least two of them also taste really good. But oh no he “has” to make something himself.

Gah, just go with the flow, people. Or as I said, maintain your own crazy.

But "the flow" includes letting people be late, or picky about their conditioner, OP. Underneath all your posturing about how these other folx are "fussy, finicky people" is you, fussing and being finicky, about what's right or acceptable based on your own lens.

So maybe maintain your own crazy before blaming everyone but yourself for situations in which you have agency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand people who try to make their high-maintenance, fussy, finicky ways someone else’s problem. If you maintain your own crazy, that’s great; I have a friend who is like that, she takes care of her own pickiness, no problem.

SIL is visiting and forgot conditioner. She came upstairs and said the guest bathroom conditioner “wouldn’t work for her,” and do we have “something better.” I showed her two more options and she made much of how no, nothing we have “works.” I shrugged and told her she can borrow my car if she wants to go to CVS. She’s put out and was asking me to double-check the house. No, babe, if your needs were that important, you would have packed your own. Here are the keys. Stop whining at me.

DH is currently gearing up to make us late to a gathering we have to drive more than an hour to get to because he is at the store buying ingredients for a cake he does not have time to make before we are supposed to depart. God forbid he go shopping last night or earlier today, no, it has to be done two hours before we have to leave. I told him just buy one of the Wegmans desserts, they look impressive and we know from experience that at least two of them also taste really good. But oh no he “has” to make something himself.

Gah, just go with the flow, people. Or as I said, maintain your own crazy.

But "the flow" includes letting people be late, or picky about their conditioner, OP. Underneath all your posturing about how these other folx are "fussy, finicky people" is you, fussing and being finicky, about what's right or acceptable based on your own lens.

So maybe maintain your own crazy before blaming everyone but yourself for situations in which you have agency.

NP. I don’t think it’s acceptable to be late when you’ve made a commitment to be somewhere. For all you know it was a dinner party or a surprise party. That’s making your lack of planning and preparation other people’s problem, and that’s not OK. I have a friend whose wife made them so late out the door that they missed the departure time for a harbor cruise to celebrate another friend’s birthday. Sometimes, lateness actually means you miss the boat. I think habitually late people are incredibly rude. If you want to bake a cake or whatever, you need to plan ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand people who try to make their high-maintenance, fussy, finicky ways someone else’s problem. If you maintain your own crazy, that’s great; I have a friend who is like that, she takes care of her own pickiness, no problem.

SIL is visiting and forgot conditioner. She came upstairs and said the guest bathroom conditioner “wouldn’t work for her,” and do we have “something better.” I showed her two more options and she made much of how no, nothing we have “works.” I shrugged and told her she can borrow my car if she wants to go to CVS. She’s put out and was asking me to double-check the house. No, babe, if your needs were that important, you would have packed your own. Here are the keys. Stop whining at me.

DH is currently gearing up to make us late to a gathering we have to drive more than an hour to get to because he is at the store buying ingredients for a cake he does not have time to make before we are supposed to depart. God forbid he go shopping last night or earlier today, no, it has to be done two hours before we have to leave. I told him just buy one of the Wegmans desserts, they look impressive and we know from experience that at least two of them also taste really good. But oh no he “has” to make something himself.

Gah, just go with the flow, people. Or as I said, maintain your own crazy.

But "the flow" includes letting people be late, or picky about their conditioner, OP. Underneath all your posturing about how these other folx are "fussy, finicky people" is you, fussing and being finicky, about what's right or acceptable based on your own lens.

So maybe maintain your own crazy before blaming everyone but yourself for situations in which you have agency.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand people who try to make their high-maintenance, fussy, finicky ways someone else’s problem. If you maintain your own crazy, that’s great; I have a friend who is like that, she takes care of her own pickiness, no problem.

SIL is visiting and forgot conditioner. She came upstairs and said the guest bathroom conditioner “wouldn’t work for her,” and do we have “something better.” I showed her two more options and she made much of how no, nothing we have “works.” I shrugged and told her she can borrow my car if she wants to go to CVS. She’s put out and was asking me to double-check the house. No, babe, if your needs were that important, you would have packed your own. Here are the keys. Stop whining at me.

DH is currently gearing up to make us late to a gathering we have to drive more than an hour to get to because he is at the store buying ingredients for a cake he does not have time to make before we are supposed to depart. God forbid he go shopping last night or earlier today, no, it has to be done two hours before we have to leave. I told him just buy one of the Wegmans desserts, they look impressive and we know from experience that at least two of them also taste really good. But oh no he “has” to make something himself.

Gah, just go with the flow, people. Or as I said, maintain your own crazy.

Read the Chik fil a thread quoted on here. OP nails it on page 1. There is a time and a place for this pickiness. Cancer research, yes. Conditioner, no.

But "the flow" includes letting people be late, or picky about their conditioner, OP. Underneath all your posturing about how these other folx are "fussy, finicky people" is you, fussing and being finicky, about what's right or acceptable based on your own lens.

So maybe maintain your own crazy before blaming everyone but yourself for situations in which you have agency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand people who try to make their high-maintenance, fussy, finicky ways someone else’s problem. If you maintain your own crazy, that’s great; I have a friend who is like that, she takes care of her own pickiness, no problem.

SIL is visiting and forgot conditioner. She came upstairs and said the guest bathroom conditioner “wouldn’t work for her,” and do we have “something better.” I showed her two more options and she made much of how no, nothing we have “works.” I shrugged and told her she can borrow my car if she wants to go to CVS. She’s put out and was asking me to double-check the house. No, babe, if your needs were that important, you would have packed your own. Here are the keys. Stop whining at me.

DH is currently gearing up to make us late to a gathering we have to drive more than an hour to get to because he is at the store buying ingredients for a cake he does not have time to make before we are supposed to depart. God forbid he go shopping last night or earlier today, no, it has to be done two hours before we have to leave. I told him just buy one of the Wegmans desserts, they look impressive and we know from experience that at least two of them also taste really good. But oh no he “has” to make something himself.

Gah, just go with the flow, people. Or as I said, maintain your own crazy.

But "the flow" includes letting people be late, or picky about their conditioner, OP. Underneath all your posturing about how these other folx are "fussy, finicky people" is you, fussing and being finicky, about what's right or acceptable based on your own lens.

So maybe maintain your own crazy before blaming everyone but yourself for situations in which you have agency.

Read the Chik fil a thread quoted on here. OP nails it on page 1. There is a time and a place for this pickiness. Cancer research, yes. Conditioner, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand people who try to make their high-maintenance, fussy, finicky ways someone else’s problem. If you maintain your own crazy, that’s great; I have a friend who is like that, she takes care of her own pickiness, no problem.

SIL is visiting and forgot conditioner. She came upstairs and said the guest bathroom conditioner “wouldn’t work for her,” and do we have “something better.” I showed her two more options and she made much of how no, nothing we have “works.” I shrugged and told her she can borrow my car if she wants to go to CVS. She’s put out and was asking me to double-check the house. No, babe, if your needs were that important, you would have packed your own. Here are the keys. Stop whining at me.

DH is currently gearing up to make us late to a gathering we have to drive more than an hour to get to because he is at the store buying ingredients for a cake he does not have time to make before we are supposed to depart. God forbid he go shopping last night or earlier today, no, it has to be done two hours before we have to leave. I told him just buy one of the Wegmans desserts, they look impressive and we know from experience that at least two of them also taste really good. But oh no he “has” to make something himself.

Gah, just go with the flow, people. Or as I said, maintain your own crazy.

But "the flow" includes letting people be late, or picky about their conditioner, OP. Underneath all your posturing about how these other folx are "fussy, finicky people" is you, fussing and being finicky, about what's right or acceptable based on your own lens.

So maybe maintain your own crazy before blaming everyone but yourself for situations in which you have agency.

+1

When did OP say she wasn’t “letting” SIL be picky about her conditioner? SIL was whining, OP offered her other choices and then offered to lend her car so SIL could go to a store and buy the conditioner of her dreams. SIL was still whining. Please, do tell: how was OP not “letting” SIL be picky?