I am utterly terrified of being alone
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Anonymous
So you need him for basically everything, yet you blame him for everything. The problem isn't him. It's you. Get off your butt and grow up. |
Anonymous
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Therapy
Driving lessons And read some books (hopefully along with the therapy) about controlling and abusive men You deserve a happy life free of abuse! |
Anonymous
| He’s your crutch. To grow strong, remove the crutch. I know bleeding hearts will disagree, but ultimately you can only blame yourself (not him) for continuing to stay in an abusive situation. I was in one and it’s hard but I got out. You know the cycle. Nothing will change despite this or that scenario. |
Anonymous
| Please get therapy. Call your health insurance today! They will be able to help you find some mental health support. There are also Women's Centers that you can go to in or near your town. |
Anonymous
| OP, did it ever occur to you your boyfriend is just tired of taking care of you like a child? Is he really "abusive" or just annoyed and frustrated? I'm sure he doesn't want to date a child. Time to grow up. |
Anonymous
So he emotionally abuses and disrespects you, but also drives you everywhere and texts you to make sure you are ok? 🤔 Hmm. |
Anonymous
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Don’t you like yourself, OP?
If you truly like yourself, being alone is a very nice thing - peaceful, quiet, contentedness at hand. Maybe a dog or a cat for some snuggles. You can do anything he can do, and probably better. |
Anonymous
| Why not start a transformation with baby steps. First assignment is to watch Youtube videos for safe highway driving then start practicing driving on highways during times there is less traffic, gradually moving on to rush hours. There is nothing to it, most drivers are below average IQ so its not rocket science that you can't figure out. |
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You've been protected and treated like a child all your life so you and others don't feel you can be competent enough to be a fully functioning independent adult but that's simply not true. You are as capable as anyone else. Go on and live the life God gave you, no matter if that life is with him or without.
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Anonymous
| Therapy can do wonders for both of you. You two need a professional to help you mend yourselves and your relationship. |
Anonymous
| One day you will just get sick of it all, find your power and be done. It's just not your time yet but it will happen. |
Anonymous
| You need therapy. Lots of it. I am not saying this to be mean, but I think if you did a year of intense therapy and became really curious about and loving of yourself, you will be in a much much much better place in a year. It’s not normal. |
Anonymous
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How old are you?
Do you have kids? Do you work? |
Anonymous
Victim card played to perfection. |
Anonymous
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Did you marry very young OP?
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