At what age do you stop inviting out of town family for your kids birthday parties?

[Anonymous]

This sounds more like an in-law problem than a birthday problem....

[Anonymous]

We have always had a birthday party for friends, and met at a restaurant in the middle for birthday dinner for grandparents. Family has never come to the friend party.

[Anonymous]

If your parents are invited, his should be too.

[Anonymous]

We stopped inviting grandparents to the actual party in preschool, when we started doing friends parties (3rd birthday onwards). Now they try to visit on the kids birthdays and we always say no. You don't have to be there ON the kids birthday, that's when we do our family celebration. Grandparents don't need to infringe on our family time. You had your kids' birthdays, let us have ours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We stopped inviting grandparents to the actual party in preschool, when we started doing friends parties (3rd birthday onwards). Now they try to visit on the kids birthdays and we always say no. You don't have to be there ON the kids birthday, that's when we do our family celebration. Grandparents don't need to infringe on our family time. You had your kids' birthdays, let us have ours.

Seriously, newsflash grandparents ARE family.

[Anonymous]

Sort of surprised by these responses. My parents are so helpful during my kid parties. So are my in laws.

I do think we’re going to move to a vacation every other year, party every other year rotation though.

[Anonymous]

I never did. It has happened once coincidentally where there were in town and so obviously they helped with a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We stopped inviting grandparents to the actual party in preschool, when we started doing friends parties (3rd birthday onwards). Now they try to visit on the kids birthdays and we always say no. You don't have to be there ON the kids birthday, that's when we do our family celebration. Grandparents don't need to infringe on our family time. You had your kids' birthdays, let us have ours.

Seriously, newsflash grandparents ARE family.

Totally agree with this poster.

Grandparents can’t win with this generation of parents. Post after post complaining about how their kids grandparents aren’t involved. Then you have so many like PP who shut them out. There is never a time where we would have told either set of our parents they weren’t welcome to come to our home, especially for anything for our kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We stopped inviting grandparents to the actual party in preschool, when we started doing friends parties (3rd birthday onwards). Now they try to visit on the kids birthdays and we always say no. You don't have to be there ON the kids birthday, that's when we do our family celebration. Grandparents don't need to infringe on our family time. You had your kids' birthdays, let us have ours.

wow, most would say that grandparents are family.

[Anonymous]

You don’t want to invite your -husband’s- out of town family or any out-of-town family including your own? I wouldn’t have invited out of town family anyway for a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We stopped inviting grandparents to the actual party in preschool, when we started doing friends parties (3rd birthday onwards). Now they try to visit on the kids birthdays and we always say no. You don't have to be there ON the kids birthday, that's when we do our family celebration. Grandparents don't need to infringe on our family time. You had your kids' birthdays, let us have ours.

wow, most would say that grandparents are family.

Did you talk to them or just stopped inviting them without saying a word?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is turning four this summer. We invited DHs out of town family to her first birthday party, but we haven’t had a “proper” birthday party since then, as she was at home with me, but now she goes to preschool and has friends that she wants to invite. If I’m being honest, I don’t really want to invite DHs out of town family, as it’ll be a hassle having to host them, etc, but I know they’re expecting it, especially since BIL (DHs brother) has invited DHs family to our nephews bday parties his entire life (he’s 6).

Why not talk to them? It maybe a hassle for them too but maybe they value family more? Hence that is why they invite you to their kids' birthday?

If you stop inviting them please stop going to their kids' birthday. You are probably a hassle too!

[Anonymous]

We never invited anyone except his school classmates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When they have friends to invite.

Because all of our family is out of town and we don’t see them often we did invite grandparents to my eldest child’s 5th birthday (they solicited the invite by asking directly). If our parents lived close by we would have something separate with them and not invite them to our eldest’s 5th birthday with friends. I feel like 6 or 7 is probably the absolute latest…

[Anonymous]

I feel like an outlier. We do family birthdays and kids birthdays starting around 3 or 4.

We’ve had our or town family come to our kids birthdays till they were in college. Not traveling more than a few hours but maybe we’re just all super close?

But they’d never want to attend a kids birthday.