| If you want separate checks, please, I am begging you, tell your server at the BEGINNING of the meal!!!!!! It makes it so much easier for them (and you, at the end). Some restaurants also have a limit on how many cards you can split a check. |
Why don’t you call him out then and there? Instead of seething and raising it online years later? |
| Maybe 25 years ago I quit drinking and went out with a group of friends. The wine and booze flowed. At the end, the bill was enormous and some said just split it like always. Except I wasn’t about to kick in a couple hundred bucks when I ate maybe 50. Another person did pipe up and said it wasn’t fair to me and everything was adjusted (thankfully). |
| I wish more places were like Vapiano was, with the individual tab for everyone. It was so great to just pay for exactly what you wanted! |
I was 20. It was a work thing. I was an admin and he was a senior manager. I barely knew him, but I had heard people call him cheap. Seriously -- "seething"? I was disgusted. But I was in no position to call him out. Possibly a situation OP's DC might encounter. What's the point of this thread if we're not supposed to share stories??? |
For the love…do not go out with a group and agree to one check if you can’t afford to absorb the costs of the group. Get your own check if you really must go out with the group and can’t afford to absorb the additional cost. But really, just don’t go. |
| Why shouldn’t I go just because I want my own check? Who made you the boss of going out? |
| With most restaurant POS systems it is really not hard to split checks. Just ask your server. |
I think people going out in a group generally should not sweat putting in an extra $5 (unless someone is really strapped). But an extra $50? That's bullpucky. |
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I was the non-drinker at a fancy dinner when one friend ordered a $300 bottle of wine... luckily she picked up the tab, but I was pretty annoyed.
I have a repeat offender friend who has three glasses of wine with each lunch out - I drink water - then offers to pay the tip. And I subsidize her $50 worth of wine.
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Absolutely – I’d say up to $20 is not a big deal. More than that because someone is not speaking up to say “hey, I need to put in more” is BS and the last time I go out with them. |
No absolutely not. I’ve been in many group dinner situations and this has never been discussed until we are ready to leave. Then it’s the discussion. Not subsidizing your excessive alcohol. Sounds like you go to these group outings expecting this and then get angry when someone doesn’t want to pay for your drinks. Pay for your own stuff! |
+1 Ever notice how the people who insist that "it all comes out in the wash" are always the one saving money on the even split? |
This doesn't even make sense because how am I supposed to predict that everyone is ordering excessively? |
Pay for your own meal and stop expecting others to subsidize you. You are cheap |