Absenteeism at school

[Anonymous]

So, your DD is a senior? Fairly common for kids to coast towards the end of senior year with college admissions already settled.

Obviously, if they are keeping up their grades then most schools aren't going to get bent out shape regarding decent-to-high performing seniors skipping class.

Most private schools solve for this by ending school fairly early (like now) for seniors or in the case of I think GDS your classes are done end of April and then you do a personal project that can be nearly anything (and many kids pick super simple easy projects)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, your DD is a senior? Fairly common for kids to coast towards the end of senior year with college admissions already settled.

Obviously, if they are keeping up their grades then most schools aren't going to get bent out shape regarding decent-to-high performing seniors skipping class.

Most private schools solve for this by ending school fairly early (like now) for seniors or in the case of I think GDS your classes are done end of April and then you do a personal project that can be nearly anything (and many kids pick super simple easy projects)

Also for GDS, I don't think the seniors go to school anymore either. It is something they do independently, though you are free to use the school to work on your project (or not).

[Anonymous]

If your kid can skip school and no fail out, you should realize there is a serious problem with the level of education they are getting even when they are there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, but my kids go to private school where there are definite consequences for skipping.

They can and do kick kids out for this.

Yep. If kids can skip this much class and still get As, they are taking easy classes.

Or they're in a school with grade inflation and non-existent attendance policies.

[Anonymous]

Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

I am focusing on the wrong thing? LOL. Ok expert. Perhaps it's the military in me, but showing up is the first step to success. Also, I wasn't blaming kids- of course they are going to skip IF there is not a consequence for doing so. I am thinking the school systems need to rethink their stance. Getting good grades is pretty easy now. Maybe it's you who is focusing on the wrong thing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

Professors don't care if you attend class (if they don't grade in-class participation which 98% don't)...they just care that you get the work done. In theory, the kid has good practice for this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

Professors don't care if you attend class (if they don't grade in-class participation which 98% don't)...they just care that you get the work done. In theory, the kid has good practice for this.

LOL! That is NOT so about every professor! I can 100% gaurantee you that!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

Professors don't care if you attend class (if they don't grade in-class participation which 98% don't)...they just care that you get the work done. In theory, the kid has good practice for this.

LOL! That is NOT so about every professor! I can 100% gaurantee you that!

That's why I said 98% of professors...my kid is at a Top 10 college right now and only 1 professor out of the 9 classes this year cares whether you attend class or not. Actually, the professor doesn't care if you attend class, he cares about attending the recitation. So, I guess we can say 89% of professors don't care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

Professors don't care if you attend class (if they don't grade in-class participation which 98% don't)...they just care that you get the work done. In theory, the kid has good practice for this.

LOL! That is NOT so about every professor! I can 100% gaurantee you that!

That's why I said 98% of professors...my kid is at a Top 10 college right now and only 1 professor out of the 9 classes this year cares whether you attend class or not. Actually, the professor doesn't care if you attend class, he cares about attending the recitation. So, I guess we can say 89% of professors don't care.

Ahhh. Your subjective experience dictates all of our realities. I see

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

Professors don't care if you attend class (if they don't grade in-class participation which 98% don't)...they just care that you get the work done. In theory, the kid has good practice for this.

LOL! That is NOT so about every professor! I can 100% gaurantee you that!

That's why I said 98% of professors...my kid is at a Top 10 college right now and only 1 professor out of the 9 classes this year cares whether you attend class or not. Actually, the professor doesn't care if you attend class, he cares about attending the recitation. So, I guess we can say 89% of professors don't care.

Ahhh. Your subjective experience dictates all of our realities. I see

No...did you not attend college? This isn't earth-shattering news here. You are expected to be an adult in college and professors aren't taking attendance or monitoring if you come to class. UC Berkeley has some classes with 2400 kids registered for the lecture and the lecture hall only seats 800. Everything is hybrid, so you can follow on zoom. That's common at many schools.

Scratching my head why you think it is otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Some parents just don't care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly when mine is doing well and not getting in trouble when she’s skipping, I could care less. If she’s managing her grades then she’s doing her job. If the schools cared, there would be consequences and there aren’t.

As far as influencing other kids, there are countless groups of kids who could potentially influence your kids. Those who do drugs and vape in the hallways. Those who never show up at all and fail. My kid who skips classes but gets all As. Etc. Etc. You just need to teach your kid to do what they need to do to be successful. It’s not my kid’s job to do what your kid needs them to do so your kid can be successful. You’re focusing on the wrong thing.

Yeah. This selfish attitude is why our society is in the toilet and our collective values are being eroded. It's sad.

+1000. I'll bet that kid is a mess or will be when she runs into a boss of professor who won't put up with it

Professors don't care if you attend class (if they don't grade in-class participation which 98% don't)...they just care that you get the work done. In theory, the kid has good practice for this.

Yes I did and while I admit that my experience was different having gone to an academy, I know from experience that many professors DO care. Maybe in the seminar classes where there are tons they don't, but once you start hitting the 300 + levels many profs are going to notice if someone is consistently not there. But ok, you somehow feel like showing up isn't important. Good luck with that.


LOL! That is NOT so about every professor! I can 100% gaurantee you that!

That's why I said 98% of professors...my kid is at a Top 10 college right now and only 1 professor out of the 9 classes this year cares whether you attend class or not. Actually, the professor doesn't care if you attend class, he cares about attending the recitation. So, I guess we can say 89% of professors don't care.

Ahhh. Your subjective experience dictates all of our realities. I see

No...did you not attend college? This isn't earth-shattering news here. You are expected to be an adult in college and professors aren't taking attendance or monitoring if you come to class. UC Berkeley has some classes with 2400 kids registered for the lecture and the lecture hall only seats 800. Everything is hybrid, so you can follow on zoom. That's common at many schools.

Scratching my head why you think it is otherwise.