Dating a hygiene obsessed person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heh. Do you plan on kids? Cause they are messy and ot can be really hard on a person not used to that.

OP here. We do plan on having a family in the semi-near future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah I dated someone like this but worse. If I was reading a book from a library he'd freak if I touched anything before washing my hand. If I gave him a BJ he wouldn't want me to touch anything until I washed my hands. He would get out of bed and open doors so I wouldn't touch door handles.

No thanks

OP here. He’s not extreme like that, thankfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dump him. He’s controlling.

OP here. He’s not controlling. We over use that word for situations that don’t fit it.

[Anonymous]

I won't wear pajamas more than once.
I also love showering before bed. But I don't always shower in the morning (I work from home).

I just don't understand how this can become an issue. Just shower before bed or break up with him.

[Anonymous]

3 showers a day is excessive. What a waste of water.

Break up. Do not marry this guy. Find another apartment this weekend. I am dead serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Heh. Do you plan on kids? Cause they are messy and ot can be really hard on a person not used to that.

OP here. We do plan on having a family in the semi-near future.

Please don't. Find someone else. You will be in a miserable situation if you have kids with this man. Get out now.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He also hates if I don’t make the bed because he loves a made bed. I’ve never dated a man that was this stringent with his hygiene. I do appreciate he takes care of his hygiene, but it’s a little extreme for me.

He’s not weird about sex or anything other than he just likes “showering the day away” as he says. He finds the hot water relaxes his body. Often times he doesn’t even really wash up except for his groin area and his face.

I don’t think I need a shower at 9pm if I showered after a workout at 6pm. I’m clean and don’t smell.

I don’t think he has OCD because he doesn’t have issues in other areas of his life. His just a little hygiene obsessed.

[Anonymous]

3 showers a day is ridiculous. 2 showers a day as a regular occurrence is also ridiculous.

Both of you need to stop wasting water.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I won't wear pajamas more than once.
I also love showering before bed. But I don't always shower in the morning (I work from home).

I just don't understand how this can become an issue. Just shower before bed or break up with him.

OP here. I will reuse pajamas more than once because I only slept in them.

I love him and don’t want to break up. I’m fine with him showering before bed but I want him to stop trying to make me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 showers a day is ridiculous. 2 showers a day as a regular occurrence is also ridiculous.

Both of you need to stop wasting water.

OP here. Most people shower each morning. How can you go to work and not shower? That’s just nasty.

Again, how can you not shower after working out? That’s nasty.

[Anonymous]

This would be your life Op. Showering is just the tiny, small, tip of the iceberg. There will be many, many other things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3 showers a day is ridiculous. 2 showers a day as a regular occurrence is also ridiculous.

Both of you need to stop wasting water.

OP here. Most people shower each morning. How can you go to work and not shower? That’s just nasty.

Again, how can you not shower after working out? That’s nasty.

Hot take: you two seem like a good fit for each other.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I know I should be happy I found the love of my life who happens to have good hygiene. I once went on a couple of dates with a guy who said he showered once a week tops. I just wish he was more a little more relaxed about hygiene. I don’t mind that he showers or that we change the sheets often. I just don’t want him pestering me about showering before bed.

I love him and adore him but I do feel that this can lead to a breakup if he keeps passively aggressively making comments or keeps pestering me about it.

[Anonymous]

I think you should have him feel out the showering three times a day with others. It may bring him some perspective that this is excessive, especially since you are showering once you are home . . .

[Anonymous]

OP here. I still stand by that anyone who doesn’t shower after a workout is nasty.