I need friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me too! I’m in northern Virginia and feeling this so much. Just reading these posts makes me feel not so alone. It’s a scary prospect looking at the upcoming years with no social circle to enjoy.

I would love to meet!

How would we set this up ???? I'm not very SM/tech savvy.

[Anonymous]

Maybe create a Facebook group for all of us to join? 45 here in Northern Virginia.

[Anonymous]

no not FB, a Meet-Up

[Anonymous]

Yep, 51 in NoVa.

[Anonymous]

I know no one prob wants to out their identity or take the first step on Meetup. . . . I'm wondering if this is something the DCUM moderator would be willing to start???? As an extension of the online community?

[Anonymous]

Or you could just post: let’s meet next Friday for a 4 pm Happy Hour at ______.

I like the idea, but live in MoCo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or you could just post: let’s meet next Friday for a 4 pm Happy Hour at ______.

I like the idea, but live in MoCo.

This is a great idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+2 in Northern Virginia.

Just read an article in NYT about the prevalence of loneliness in young adults, which tapers off during "mid life", and then picks up again post 60'ish years old. I'm feeling this really hard, right now.

Another in NoVa. 52.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or you could just post: let’s meet next Friday for a 4 pm Happy Hour at ______.

I like the idea, but live in MoCo.

+1
And everyone wear something identifying, like a pink top, because I'm an introvert and unlikely to approach people I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no not FB, a Meet-Up

Np. But if you do a private FB group, you could join it and plan events there. And old people know how to use Facebook.

I would make it, but I'm in NC. But I'm cheering all of you on. Do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to join in the following: Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog?

who doesn’t like this? your dh refuses all these things??

Me. I don’t like crowds so don’t like live music. I don’t drink. Just staring at the ocean?? Boring. I hate hiking and I absolutely hate dogs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to join in the following: Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog?

who doesn’t like this? your dh refuses all these things??

Me. I don’t like crowds so don’t like live music. I don’t drink. Just staring at the ocean?? Boring. I hate hiking and I absolutely hate dogs!

You should be MY best friend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to hang out? I wish all these awesome 45+ women on here with whom I relate so strongly could reveal themselves to me. I’m really fun and have a list of really cool list of awesome things to do around here if I only I had someone to do them with. Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog? Try clubbing one night just to remember how fun it is to dance and not care? I know it would help with all the stresses I (and everyone else) seem to feel with being a sandwich. Boring husband who never wants to do or initiate anything? Go out with your friends!! I just wish I knew where you all were. I can’t seem to find you.

I found friends like this at my church.

I am a big believer that if all you want from church is a social outlet that is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to hang out? I wish all these awesome 45+ women on here with whom I relate so strongly could reveal themselves to me. I’m really fun and have a list of really cool list of awesome things to do around here if I only I had someone to do them with. Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog? Try clubbing one night just to remember how fun it is to dance and not care? I know it would help with all the stresses I (and everyone else) seem to feel with being a sandwich. Boring husband who never wants to do or initiate anything? Go out with your friends!! I just wish I knew where you all were. I can’t seem to find you.

It's so hard. I posted about this a couple days ago and, so far, am not having a lot of luck finding "meetups" and things that are directed to my demographic (in terms of age, local, non-single). It's frustrating. And giving me some anxiety over what the next 30 years is going to look like . . . . I don't do well when I'm bored or when I don't have social outlets.

Wow. Wtf. You lost me at non single. Why aren’t you willing to be friends with single people? Try to being less judgmental and maybe you will make more friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to hang out? I wish all these awesome 45+ women on here with whom I relate so strongly could reveal themselves to me. I’m really fun and have a list of really cool list of awesome things to do around here if I only I had someone to do them with. Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog? Try clubbing one night just to remember how fun it is to dance and not care? I know it would help with all the stresses I (and everyone else) seem to feel with being a sandwich. Boring husband who never wants to do or initiate anything? Go out with your friends!! I just wish I knew where you all were. I can’t seem to find you.

It's so hard. I posted about this a couple days ago and, so far, am not having a lot of luck finding "meetups" and things that are directed to my demographic (in terms of age, local, non-single). It's frustrating. And giving me some anxiety over what the next 30 years is going to look like . . . . I don't do well when I'm bored or when I don't have social outlets.

Wow. Wtf. You lost me at non single. Why aren’t you willing to be friends with single people? Try to being less judgmental and maybe you will make more friends

DP but I don’t think she meant “non single” the way it sounded. I interpreted it to mean that she’s not looking to be part of meetups where the focus is dating/looking for partners. Some groups are — and there’s nothing wrong with that but the dynamics are different. Maybe try assuming good intent instead of attacking someone who is just looking for friendship.