Has anyone tried Revenge Cheating?

[Anonymous]

are you the same person who has posted about revenge cheating multiple prior times? then had a SB?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

If anyone has had a clandestine fling to even the score, how did it work out?

Grow up and be a man.

[Anonymous]

by seeking revenge you dig two graves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s indicative of neither spouse being mentally healthy enough to handle marriage. Which is likely how you ended up here.

Just divorce. Fix yourself. Be a good parent to your kids.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

Something to consider: people are often said to be only as faithful as their opportunities. Likely your DW had an opportunity so it was easy and didn’t take work on her part. You may have to put in effort to make your opportunity, and that very effort will drive a wedge between you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

If anyone has had a clandestine fling to even the score, how did it work out?

It wouldn't be an affair since you're in an open marriage. Your wife opened it when she had her affair.

She will keep having them if she wants to.

Do whatever you want.

She won't care either, in fact, she will be happy you have an affair because then she got her hall pass, it was just in advance.

[Anonymous]

Same boat but I'm the wife....hey op 👋

[Anonymous]

Two flings, one with a pornstar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

If anyone has had a clandestine fling to even the score, how did it work out?

Well, no. I have integrity.

— another DH who got cheated on. I did leverage that shit in the divorce though.

[Anonymous]

You are getting a lot of flack from people who haven't been in your shoes. I have.

I had a revenge affair. I wouldn't say it made things better but it definitely took the mystery out of affairs. It's sex, sex feels good and is more exciting with someone new. Also, I felt less deprived than she got to play but I didn't.

I will warn you that you are bringing in another woman's emotions. You don't know how your.affair partner will react.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

If anyone has had a clandestine fling to even the score, how did it work out?

If you want to have one, have one for you. Don’t tell your wife. You will lose whatever advantage you have if you disclose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

If anyone has had a clandestine fling to even the score, how did it work out?

Well, no. I have integrity.

— another DH who got cheated on. I did leverage that shit in the divorce though.

Please share how you leveraged it.
I’m the higher earning spouse and my DH cheated, left me and the kids and filed for divorce. He’s close to full deadbeat. However, law says I may have to pay him?!? What injustice.
So how do they do I “leverage” his ongoing affair against him?

[Anonymous]

She already cheated on you first. She doesn’t love you. It’s not really the revenge you are looking for. She doesn’t care. Just get divorced and move on. Love your kids! Be there for your kids. You are always their father. She left you a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are getting a lot of flack from people who haven't been in your shoes. I have.

I had a revenge affair. I wouldn't say it made things better but it definitely took the mystery out of affairs. It's sex, sex feels good and is more exciting with someone new. Also, I felt less deprived than she got to play but I didn't.

I will warn you that you are bringing in another woman's emotions. You don't know how your.affair partner will react.

And man’s^ if you are fkkkkkg some guy’s wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking about having a fling to get back at my wife for her affair…divorce is not viable given my attachment to the kids.

If anyone has had a clandestine fling to even the score, how did it work out?

Well, no. I have integrity.

— another DH who got cheated on. I did leverage that shit in the divorce though.

Please share how you leveraged it.
I’m the higher earning spouse and my DH cheated, left me and the kids and filed for divorce. He’s close to full deadbeat. However, law says I may have to pay him?!? What injustice.
So how do they do I “leverage” his ongoing affair against him?

You described pretty much every man married to a cheating stay at home wife. It’s what they always have had to do. Pay the cheating ho after the divorce.