I'm not doing enough at home

[Anonymous]

Do you work, OP?

I can't imagine ever asking this question, not because I don't have enough free time, but because I can think of a million things I would do with extra time, including reading a book in bed!

[Anonymous]

Would your DH feel guilty for having this free time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you work, OP?

I can't imagine ever asking this question, not because I don't have enough free time, but because I can think of a million things I would do with extra time, including reading a book in bed!

Yes, I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would your DH feel guilty for having this free time?

What does that matter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our middle child has become fairly competent at her sport, so practices have gotten longer and more frequent. Coincidentally, it's a sport DH played in college, so he's pretty happy to make the time to take her. Our eldest DS is leaving for college this summer and has voluntarily begun driving our youngest to his (very few) activities. Between all this, I suddenly have a lot of free time at home, and I feel guilty over it. What can I do? I still cook and clean in the evenings, but it's almost like the fatigue of raising kids has caught up to me, and there's only so much I can do. Sometimes I just want to read a book in bed, but I know I can't. What are some little things I can do that make a big impact at home?

So it sounds like you'll have this problem for another month? Enjoy your downtime, it'll be gone soon enough.

Fair point.

[Anonymous]

Oh for heaven’s sake, read a book in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pray.

Yuck! No.

Are you a child?

No, but praying to God is childish, because God isn't real. It's like believing in Santa!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pray.

Yuck! No.

Are you a child?

No, but praying to God is childish, because God isn't real. It's like believing in Santa!

+1. Start an Xmas list for Santa maybe?

me:

Nap. A lot.
So much more sex w DH.
Netflix.
More massages.
Treadmill and hiking.
Finding out wtf people like yoga/and wtf it does for them because it's okay and all but I am not feeling 'it'. Same for meditating. If I do it enough maybe I will unlock a cheat code or level up? **
Deep cleaning and de-hoarding kids clothes and toys.
Cleaning and organizing closets.
Gardening and Home Improvement. Lots of it.
Cook/learn to cook **
Repainting anything that needs to look more fresh.
Mapping out vacations and travel ideas.
Surfing internet.
Pick up a couple more instruments or languages. If resources permitted I'd spend the $ I currently spend on kids hobbies on this.
Learn a weird skill **
Starting a social media account for my weird pet. I have no interest in initiating social media, but I get sent way less entertaining tiktoks and IGs from friends so his weirdness needs to get out there. **

** Indicates I have little to no interest in actually doing this item. Not saying I have done all these things but this would be my shortlist. Not looking forward to empty nesting- but I am years away. I think I'd rather start on some of these now so it doesn't feel so lonely do do it when the kids are all out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pray.

Yuck! No.

Are you a child?

No, but praying to God is childish, because God isn't real. It's like believing in Santa!

Trying to convince people not to practice their religion is childish. It’s like you believing you are God of all people’s beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Read the book. L

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I give you permission to read a book in bed! You can!

+1

You said it yourself. The workload of raising children has hit you and now you need to rest. It’s perfectly fine!

Enjoy your rest and don’t feel guilty for a minute.

[Anonymous]

Parent the youngest child! He is not his sibling’s responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pray.

Yuck! No.

NP - but praying has scientifically documented benefits for mental and physical health... you might want to open your mind.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine having this issue. So, I’ll bite. I would catch up on laundry, organize the laundry room and make it nice. Walk the dog, take her to a park. Organize the kids old stuff and donate. Organize the pantry. Cook. Bake.
Garden. Organize my crazy linen closet. Bath. Hike. Raise my own veggies. Go to some fun gourmet store. Shop. Wallpaper my powder room. Clean out my garage. Power wash my deck. Do a full grout clean. I would be in actual heaven.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pray.

Yuck! No.

Yes, in no way should you pray!!! How awful! Better to be an unhappy atheist who walks around crapping on everyone. You may be miserable, but least you will be focusing on you.