who pays for the date's prom ticket?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're not a prostitute, you pay for your own ticket.

My son and his girlfriend go to different schools. They each pay for both tickets for events at their own school. It comes out pretty even. Neither is a prostitute.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Social norms would say one invite pays, but if had daughter, would have them buy own. If daughter doesn’t go to the school having prom, would have her give the price of ticket to the person from the school to buy the ticket.

Social norms also say the man pays. I don’t care how old fashion that is I taught my son to always pay when he’s with a girl.

1961 prom called -- it wants its "social norms" back.

NP. But I agree with the PP. Outdated or not

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t allow my daughter to go if the boy didn’t offer to pay. We are old school and prefer old school ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t allow my daughter to go if the boy didn’t offer to pay. We are old school and prefer old school ways.

Dies she know about these rules of yours and that you have a veto on who she’s going to the prom with based on who paid for the ticket?

Seems controlling to an unhealthy degree, you should let her choose, stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Blah blah blah…both of my sons have always paid for everything on every date they have been on. Despite the moms on here crowing about their daughters paying their own way, when they find a male who will pay, they all gladly accept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t allow my daughter to go if the boy didn’t offer to pay. We are old school and prefer old school ways.

I assume you also tell her she needs to reciprocate appropriately which is what her date will expect. I assume you know what reciprocate means in this context.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 sons and just shelled out $320 for prom tickets ($80/each.) DS (or rather we) are paying for their date's tickets. One date goes to their HS, the other doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Should split costs. Teens don't have much of their own money it's not really fair to expect one to pay for the other.

The teen has parents to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're not a prostitute, you pay for your own ticket.

Ridiculous take. We may disagree who pays, but taking a teen a prostitute because they let their date pay is sick. Just disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Blah blah blah…both of my sons have always paid for everything on every date they have been on. Despite the moms on here crowing about their daughters paying their own way, when they find a male who will pay, they all gladly accept.

are the days of Dutch over? My daughter’s friends are surprisingly old fashion and expect boys to pay for everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and just shelled out $320 for prom tickets ($80/each.) DS (or rather we) are paying for their date's tickets. One date goes to their HS, the other doesn't.

In this case it’s not the teen that paid, it was you. I don’t see any reason why I should pay for other teen’s prom. If my child saved the money and wants to pay for his date’s ticket I wouldn’t care.

To me this crosses into freeloading territory, and you just treat it like all other freeloaders that for examples don’t pay their share when dining out. You just don’t invite them and avoid their company.

I don’t need to foot anyone’s bill just because they are “old fashioned”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and just shelled out $320 for prom tickets ($80/each.) DS (or rather we) are paying for their date's tickets. One date goes to their HS, the other doesn't.

In this case it’s not the teen that paid, it was you. I don’t see any reason why I should pay for other teen’s prom. If my child saved the money and wants to pay for his date’s ticket I wouldn’t care.

To me this crosses into freeloading territory, and you just treat it like all other freeloaders that for examples don’t pay their share when dining out. You just don’t invite them and avoid their company.

I don’t need to foot anyone’s bill just because they are “old fashioned”.

Teens aren't "old fashioned"...they are just happy if anyone else pays.

It would be like saying my teen son is "progressive" because he lets the girl pay. He isn't progressive...he just likes when anyone else comps him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 sons and just shelled out $320 for prom tickets ($80/each.) DS (or rather we) are paying for their date's tickets. One date goes to their HS, the other doesn't.

In this case it’s not the teen that paid, it was you. I don’t see any reason why I should pay for other teen’s prom. If my child saved the money and wants to pay for his date’s ticket I wouldn’t care.

To me this crosses into freeloading territory, and you just treat it like all other freeloaders that for examples don’t pay their share when dining out. You just don’t invite them and avoid their company.

I don’t need to foot anyone’s bill just because they are “old fashioned”.

Teens aren't "old fashioned"...they are just happy if anyone else pays.

It would be like saying my teen son is "progressive" because he lets the girl pay. He isn't progressive...he just likes when anyone else comps him.

The default is everyone pays for their own ticket, but there are factors that can change that. Like if they are dating for some time, type of relationship they have, family financial situation etc. it’s not really that different than buying the boyfriend/girlfriend a gift, in the larger context it’s expected there will be some reciprocation of doing something nice for the other person.

But the “boy asked, boy pays” mindset is a red flag to me, not only for teen prom, but also dating in general.

I actually disagree when you say they just want someone to pay for them. We’re taking about 18 year olds, also known as grown ups or adults. They should be savvy enough at that age to navigate the social settings of having different types of relationships (romantic, friend, acquaintance), discuss their expectations and needs, have some (small) financial independence etc.

If your teens are not there yet, maybe use this situation as a teaching opportunity, soon they’ll go to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t allow my daughter to go if the boy didn’t offer to pay. We are old school and prefer old school ways.

In less you cannot afford it you should share costs.

[Anonymous]

So they need to spend money on ridiculous “promposals”, dinner, limos, tickets, and a corsage. How much do you think this costs a teenager or their parents?

Split the costs.