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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 2 sons and just shelled out $320 for prom tickets ($80/each.) DS (or rather we) are paying for their date's tickets. One date goes to their HS, the other doesn't.[/quote]

In this case it’s not the teen that paid, it was you. I don’t see any reason why I should pay for other teen’s prom. If my child saved the money and wants to pay for his date’s ticket I wouldn’t care.

To me this crosses into freeloading territory, and you just treat it like all other freeloaders that for examples don’t pay their share when dining out. You just don’t invite them and avoid their company.

I don’t need to foot anyone’s bill just because they are “old fashioned”.[/quote]

Teens aren't "old fashioned"...they are just happy if anyone else pays.

It would be like saying my teen son is "progressive" because he lets the girl pay.  He isn't progressive...he just likes when anyone else comps him.[/quote]

The default is everyone pays for their own ticket, but there are factors that can change that. Like if they are dating for some time, type of relationship they have, family financial situation etc. it’s not really that different than buying the boyfriend/girlfriend a gift, in the larger context it’s expected there will be some reciprocation of doing something nice for the other person.

But the “boy asked, boy pays” mindset is a red flag to me, not only for teen prom, but also dating in general.

I actually disagree when you say they just want someone to pay for them. We’re taking about 18 year olds, also known as grown ups or adults. They should be savvy enough at that age to navigate the social settings of having different types of relationships (romantic, friend, acquaintance), discuss their expectations and needs, have some (small) financial independence etc.

If your teens are not there yet, maybe use this situation as a teaching opportunity, soon they’ll go to college.[/quote]

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