Forgetting Birthday Parties

[Anonymous]

Yep, son came home last Monday with a Saturday party invite notice. SMH

[Anonymous]

Possibly a b list invite in which case I wouldn't feel bad not going

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Possibly a b list invite in which case I wouldn't feel bad not going

This, I assume when my kid comes home with or I get in my email/text a same week invite that they already had a lot of declines and now they’re looking into the B list. The thing is if I got more than a few days notice I could probably rearrange his schedule to accommodate but it’s impossible on a few days notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Possibly a b list invite in which case I wouldn't feel bad not going

This, I assume when my kid comes home with or I get in my email/text a same week invite that they already had a lot of declines and now they’re looking into the B list. The thing is if I got more than a few days notice I could probably rearrange his schedule to accommodate but it’s impossible on a few days notice.

I have added last minute people but they are not a b list. They may be family friends we decided to add even though we originally were planning to have a school party. Or my kid forgot someone. It is never a b list:

[Anonymous]

I add DS's parties to my calendar just like I add his appointments or school events. If something comes up or he can't go then I delete it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the last month we've gotten 2 email invites for birthday parties with one week's notice (one for each kid). My kids never said anything, and I just forgot about them, one of which was yesterday. So now, older DS gets to go to school tomorrow and hear about the party he missed.

Feeling like a crap parent, but also wondering if one week's notice is the norm now? In the past, invites usually went out several weeks in advance and I never felt like I had to immediately respond. Does anyone else do this or just my disorganized self?

Not only will he feel awful for missing party, because of you, but chances are good he won't be invited to next year's party. It is your responsibility to keep track of invitations and all you to do is put a reminder on your phone. A week is ample notice. No excuse.

[Anonymous]

I guess I would have thought that more notice would have only increased the odds of forgetting about the event. One week and I would have thought higher odds you were busy already, but less likely to forget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the last month we've gotten 2 email invites for birthday parties with one week's notice (one for each kid). My kids never said anything, and I just forgot about them, one of which was yesterday. So now, older DS gets to go to school tomorrow and hear about the party he missed.

Feeling like a crap parent, but also wondering if one week's notice is the norm now? In the past, invites usually went out several weeks in advance and I never felt like I had to immediately respond. Does anyone else do this or just my disorganized self?

Not only will he feel awful for missing party, because of you, but chances are good he won't be invited to next year's party. It is your responsibility to keep track of invitations and all you to do is put a reminder on your phone. A week is ample notice. No excuse.

You sound like a very flexible, compassionate person.

[Anonymous]

Hmm it seems to me like I’d be more likely to remember a party I got invited to just a week ago than a party I was invited to longer ago.

What I do w kid events (or actually ALL events) is RSVP right away and add to my google calendar (shared w my spouse) right away. That way we don’t forget.

[Anonymous]

Well I forgot to pick my kid up from a party. Not crappy, just demented😂

[Anonymous]

Evite went to my spam often so when a parent checked in I assumed it went to spam. It turns out I had already opened it but was in the middle of something that made me forget entirely before I could respond or really register it (like right before being called to board a plane and go on a trip). I sometimes need to check emails as they come but it'd be better to do at a desk with calendar when I can focus for a moment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, son came home last Monday with a Saturday party invite notice. SMH

What difference does it make? You can either make it or not. By Monday you should have a pretty good idea what your Saturday looks like. Even if it get an evite 2-3 weeks out I wait until the week of to RSVP once I knew our full schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, son came home last Monday with a Saturday party invite notice. SMH

What difference does it make? You can either make it or not. By Monday you should have a pretty good idea what your Saturday looks like. Even if it get an evite 2-3 weeks out I wait until the week of to RSVP once I knew our full schedule.

Yes, I don’t think OP’s excuse makes any sense. It should not have mattered if the party was one week away or three weeks away. She could have RSVPd and taken her child or not if they weren’t available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Possibly a b list invite in which case I wouldn't feel bad not going

This, I assume when my kid comes home with or I get in my email/text a same week invite that they already had a lot of declines and now they’re looking into the B list. The thing is if I got more than a few days notice I could probably rearrange his schedule to accommodate but it’s impossible on a few days notice.

+1 I’d assume it’s B list (unless you are family friends, ran into someone from the past, etc) and would not feel bad turning down such an afterthought invite because we are so busy and the birthday person is probably not a close friend of my DC. No hard feelings.

[Anonymous]

Monday invite poster here. Attended that Saturday party and turns out the late invite thing was cultural. There were only 10 kids in attendance and not everyone from class was even invited. Very glad I rearranged my plans so my child could attend and celebrate with the birthday kid.