Would missing this day from school matter?

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Anonymous wrote:We're also planning to travel spring break from Monday to Monday this year - and have done so in the past - to get better fares. In our experience they don't jump in the day after break (or the day before break) because a lot of kids are out.

I'd make sure a struggling kid continues on their upward trajectory these next few weeks and maybe also email the teachers to ask what the assignments will be on the first day back so that my kid could complete the work before vacation.

No, you as the parent don't email middle school teachers. Your kid can do so but should not expect they go out of their way to provide work early.

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I don’t get why they align spring break with Easter and then make school start the next day. So many people would have to travel on Easter instead of celebrating it with families.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't teach a lazy student that it's ok to miss school for vacation, and I say that as someone who's taking their 5th grader out of school to Dallas that same day for the eclipse.

Snort. Punish the whole family by denying a vacation! That will motivate MS boys, right?

OP, go! One school day one way or the other won’t make or break your kid.

Yes, his siblings temporarily hating him for this WILL motivate him, actually.

OP here. The kids don’t even know we have the week off yet, let alone that we might travel. Of course if we decide not to go, we would never stoop so low as to throw our son under the bus! How cruel!

What's cruel is to sabotage a child who's already struggling academically.

Ok, thank you for your input.

Wy ask a question you don't want an answer to?

Your answer was stupid, quite frankly. And mean-spirited. So we get it and what you are. Now move along. OP is not taking your advice.

If she's going to take the kid out of school regardless, why ask?

OP here. I’m still not sure, but I am sure I won’t be throwing my son under he bus and blaming him if we don’t go.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't teach a lazy student that it's ok to miss school for vacation, and I say that as someone who's taking their 5th grader out of school to Dallas that same day for the eclipse.

Snort. Punish the whole family by denying a vacation! That will motivate MS boys, right?

OP, go! One school day one way or the other won’t make or break your kid.

Yes, his siblings temporarily hating him for this WILL motivate him, actually.

OP here. The kids don’t even know we have the week off yet, let alone that we might travel. Of course if we decide not to go, we would never stoop so low as to throw our son under the bus! How cruel!

What's cruel is to sabotage a child who's already struggling academically.

Ok, thank you for your input.

Wy ask a question you don't want an answer to?

Your answer was stupid, quite frankly. And mean-spirited. So we get it and what you are. Now move along. OP is not taking your advice.

If she's going to take the kid out of school regardless, why ask?

OP here. I’m still not sure, but I am sure I won’t be throwing my son under he bus and blaming him if we don’t go.

Ok. I guess I just prefer natural consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't teach a lazy student that it's ok to miss school for vacation, and I say that as someone who's taking their 5th grader out of school to Dallas that same day for the eclipse.

Snort. Punish the whole family by denying a vacation! That will motivate MS boys, right?

OP, go! One school day one way or the other won’t make or break your kid.

Yes, his siblings temporarily hating him for this WILL motivate him, actually.

OP here. The kids don’t even know we have the week off yet, let alone that we might travel. Of course if we decide not to go, we would never stoop so low as to throw our son under the bus! How cruel!

What's cruel is to sabotage a child who's already struggling academically.

Ok, thank you for your input.

Wy ask a question you don't want an answer to?

Your answer was stupid, quite frankly. And mean-spirited. So we get it and what you are. Now move along. OP is not taking your advice.

If she's going to take the kid out of school regardless, why ask?

OP here. I’m still not sure, but I am sure I won’t be throwing my son under he bus and blaming him if we don’t go.

Ok. I guess I just prefer natural consequences.

OP here. I do too. But like I said, they don’t know. Why would you suggest I sit them down and tell them we were going to go on vacation but your brother ruined it for all of us, so feel free to hate him all weekend. Are you serious? That’s honestly horrible.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't teach a lazy student that it's ok to miss school for vacation, and I say that as someone who's taking their 5th grader out of school to Dallas that same day for the eclipse.

Snort. Punish the whole family by denying a vacation! That will motivate MS boys, right?

OP, go! One school day one way or the other won’t make or break your kid.

Yes, his siblings temporarily hating him for this WILL motivate him, actually.

OP here. The kids don’t even know we have the week off yet, let alone that we might travel. Of course if we decide not to go, we would never stoop so low as to throw our son under the bus! How cruel!

What's cruel is to sabotage a child who's already struggling academically.

Ok, thank you for your input.

Wy ask a question you don't want an answer to?

Your answer was stupid, quite frankly. And mean-spirited. So we get it and what you are. Now move along. OP is not taking your advice.

If she's going to take the kid out of school regardless, why ask?

OP here. I’m still not sure, but I am sure I won’t be throwing my son under he bus and blaming him if we don’t go.

Ok. I guess I just prefer natural consequences.

OP here. I do too. But like I said, they don’t know. Why would you suggest I sit them down and tell them we were going to go on vacation but your brother ruined it for all of us, so feel free to hate him all weekend. Are you serious? That’s honestly horrible.

I never said I would sit them down. I probably wouldn't mention it at all if I chose not to go, but if they asked why they're not going anywhere for spring break, I would explain.

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OP...I think it is kind of silly you are asking the question on DCUM because you show a strangely irrational amount of guilt about it.

To answer, take your kid out of school for that day. It's middle school which counts for basically nothing in the scheme of things.

Just make it clear that everyone has to make up the missed work quickly and not let it drag out on the return.

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Anonymous wrote:We're also planning to travel spring break from Monday to Monday this year - and have done so in the past - to get better fares. In our experience they don't jump in the day after break (or the day before break) because a lot of kids are out.

I'd make sure a struggling kid continues on their upward trajectory these next few weeks and maybe also email the teachers to ask what the assignments will be on the first day back so that my kid could complete the work before vacation.

No, you as the parent don't email middle school teachers. Your kid can do so but should not expect they go out of their way to provide work early.

No, you don't tell me who I'm allowed to email. In this case I'd email the teacher. And, no, I don't expect them to go out of their way to provide work. However, many teachers plan far in advance and asking what will be covered a week or so before an absence - if they have that info - is not an imposition. If they don't have it, fine. Kid will do it when they get back.

It's one day FFS. If a kid can't do one day's makeup work when they return to school, there are more serious problems that need to be identified and addressed.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't teach a lazy student that it's ok to miss school for vacation, and I say that as someone who's taking their 5th grader out of school to Dallas that same day for the eclipse.

Snort. Punish the whole family by denying a vacation! That will motivate MS boys, right?

OP, go! One school day one way or the other won’t make or break your kid.

Yes, his siblings temporarily hating him for this WILL motivate him, actually.

OP here. The kids don’t even know we have the week off yet, let alone that we might travel. Of course if we decide not to go, we would never stoop so low as to throw our son under the bus! How cruel!

What's cruel is to sabotage a child who's already struggling academically.

Ok, thank you for your input.

Wy ask a question you don't want an answer to?

Your answer was stupid, quite frankly. And mean-spirited. So we get it and what you are. Now move along. OP is not taking your advice.

If she's going to take the kid out of school regardless, why ask?

OP here. I’m still not sure, but I am sure I won’t be throwing my son under he bus and blaming him if we don’t go.

Ok. I guess I just prefer natural consequences.

OP here. I do too. But like I said, they don’t know. Why would you suggest I sit them down and tell them we were going to go on vacation but your brother ruined it for all of us, so feel free to hate him all weekend. Are you serious? That’s honestly horrible.

I never said I would sit them down. I probably wouldn't mention it at all if I chose not to go, but if they asked why they're not going anywhere for spring break, I would explain.

They would never ask, because like I said, we normally travel only in the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:OP...I think it is kind of silly you are asking the question on DCUM because you show a strangely irrational amount of guilt about it.

To answer, take your kid out of school for that day. It's middle school which counts for basically nothing in the scheme of things.

Just make it clear that everyone has to make up the missed work quickly and not let it drag out on the return.

But the way OP has described her son, that's just not going to happen. OP needs to just expect that the missed work will never get done, and be ok with that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP...I think it is kind of silly you are asking the question on DCUM because you show a strangely irrational amount of guilt about it.

To answer, take your kid out of school for that day. It's middle school which counts for basically nothing in the scheme of things.

Just make it clear that everyone has to make up the missed work quickly and not let it drag out on the return.

But the way OP has described her son, that's just not going to happen. OP needs to just expect that the missed work will never get done, and be ok with that.

But if he’s not even doing it when IN SCHOOL, what would it matter if he didn’t do it when NOT in school? Why cancel your vacation over a symptom?

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Anonymous wrote:We're also planning to travel spring break from Monday to Monday this year - and have done so in the past - to get better fares. In our experience they don't jump in the day after break (or the day before break) because a lot of kids are out.

I'd make sure a struggling kid continues on their upward trajectory these next few weeks and maybe also email the teachers to ask what the assignments will be on the first day back so that my kid could complete the work before vacation.

Do not email the teachers. Parents shouldn’t be asking this at all at this age and your kid shouldn’t be asking the teacher to do more work ahead of time. He can check Canvas, Blackboard, Schoology, etc to see what he missed and make it up later.

I’m a HS teacher and would think it is fine to even pull a high schooler for this. I have more than out this week for extended family vacations.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't teach a lazy student that it's ok to miss school for vacation, and I say that as someone who's taking their 5th grader out of school to Dallas that same day for the eclipse.

Snort. Punish the whole family by denying a vacation! That will motivate MS boys, right?

OP, go! One school day one way or the other won’t make or break your kid.

Yes, his siblings temporarily hating him for this WILL motivate him, actually.

OP here. The kids don’t even know we have the week off yet, let alone that we might travel. Of course if we decide not to go, we would never stoop so low as to throw our son under the bus! How cruel!

What's cruel is to sabotage a child who's already struggling academically.

Not OP, but c'mon. So much hyperbole here.

It's just one day. Time spent with family will be a lifelong memory. A missed school day in middle school is a blip in time in the larger scheme of life.

And for a child who's not having problems, my answer would be different. But a lazy child CANNOT be taught that school doesn't matter.

Letting him miss a day can be used as a teaching moment. He’s been doing better and she can acknowledge that is why he’s able to miss this one day. Emphasize the need to work hard starting Tuesday to stay on track. Be responsible and respectful in getting the work ahead of time.

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My kids are missing that whole week… my older two (9th & 6th grades) will get homework from Google classroom and do it while we are away. Younger one I won’t bother.