Skipped a grade. What to do now?

[Anonymous]

You should not have had him skip a grade, however now he's there, keep him there.
Repeat a grade would do much worse damage.

I skipped a grade due to move too, I was fine, went to a good state university. Though sometimes my parents and I would make excuses for my failings such as late bloomer in dating, weak sports, on my skipped grade, but I doubt I'd be much different in those aspect had I went with age appropriate grade.

[Anonymous]

It is fine. I know people that skipped a grade and have moved along in life just fine. If there's not a problem, don't stress and create one in your head.

[Anonymous]

It will be fine. My brother and my husband both skipped a grade (for basically the same reason - coming from abroad and were a grade ahead).

no academica consequences, both were valedictorians and went to good schools.

There may have been some minor social consequences? It's just a little weird to be a year younger than your peers for the rest of your educational life. My husband says he wishes he had taken a gap year after high school. Probably would have benefitted my brother, too.

[Anonymous]

Just let him continue. Our son's birthday is in August so he started K having just turned 5, and then skipped a grade in 1st. He just continued on and began college just turning 17. No issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child skipped a grade when overseas. We placed him in the correct grade when we moved back and nobody ever questioned it.

OP here. And what was your DC’s reaction?

[Anonymous]

There is a huge range during puberty, so he won't He'll be fine. My DS skipped and is about to graduate college. He's had ups and downs on the social emotional side over the years, but it's because kids do. It would definitely been worse to hold back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a huge range during puberty, so he won't He'll be fine. My DS skipped and is about to graduate college. He's had ups and downs on the social emotional side over the years, but it's because kids do. It would definitely been worse to hold back.

Meant to say "so he won't stick out."

[Anonymous]

My son with a late summer birthday hit puberty early and his best friend through the years was almost a full year older. He will be fine. Plenty of kids that do not skip hut puberty Kate and look younger for a year or two. Life goes on.

[Anonymous]

I skipped a grade and have a late birthday but ultimately turned out fine (I think 😆) but I would be mindful of a few things. Puberty wasn't a big thing because nobody was paying that close attention and as others mentioned there was a wide range for when it started. It helped that I was significantly taller and more athletic for my age and was able to still excel as a younger player. However, if I would have stayed in my original grade I undoubtedly would have a much more successful high school and colllegiate athletic career.

There were some social concerns though. I was often unable to do certain somethings with most of my classmates. Once kids started getting drivers licenses, I was obviously behind and it was a bit frustrating. I spent my entire freshman year of college as a 17 year old so I couldn't go to any of the places my classmates hung out. That was a big deal. Same thing with the fact that I didn't turn 21 until after college graduation. I still have good friends from those days, but I had quite a bit of angst from always feeling a little like an outsider. In hindsight, I was a depressed teenager and young adult so I would be mindful of your sons mood and social opportunities.

[Anonymous]

Can you clarify the situation?

By skipping ahead “due to overseas move” do you mean you just returned to US and skipped him a grade? Or you moved overseas and he is in another country now in the skipped grade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is fine. I know people that skipped a grade and have moved along in life just fine. If there's not a problem, don't stress and create one in your head.

This. It sounds like you're going out looking for problems when there isn't one.

I skipped a grade in early elementary when I switched schools. Once at my new school, it was my new normal and no one ever thought twice about it. I think these days parents make SOOOO much more out skipping grades than the kids do. What if what if what if what if, on and on...

Kids don't hit 13 years on the exact dot and BOOM go through puberty. It varies widely like PPs have said. Some are early, some are late, and the span is over years, not weeks. Your kid will probably blend right into the middle of that somewhere.

Through high school, I was friends with people in the grades above and below me. I was never bean counting how many months different we were. All the issues I had as a teenager - insecurity, boy drama, etc - would have been the exact same as if I had been in a lower grade. When a kid struggles, I think this is just an easy thing for adults to point at and blame. "I should have redshirted him!" "I shouldn't have let her skip a grade!" But it's all speculation in the end. Chances are it's not the age of the child, it's the circumstances - a mean friend, a bad boyfriend, a disliked teacher.

[Anonymous]

He can repeat a year in college if he fails out or he can start taking college prerequisites and have an associates by the time he graduates high school and be the youngest ever to whatever. Don’t hold him back

[Anonymous]

If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I skipped a grade and have a late birthday but ultimately turned out fine (I think 😆) but I would be mindful of a few things. Puberty wasn't a big thing because nobody was paying that close attention and as others mentioned there was a wide range for when it started. It helped that I was significantly taller and more athletic for my age and was able to still excel as a younger player. However, if I would have stayed in my original grade I undoubtedly would have a much more successful high school and colllegiate athletic career.

There were some social concerns though. I was often unable to do certain somethings with most of my classmates. Once kids started getting drivers licenses, I was obviously behind and it was a bit frustrating. I spent my entire freshman year of college as a 17 year old so I couldn't go to any of the places my classmates hung out. That was a big deal. Same thing with the fact that I didn't turn 21 until after college graduation. I still have good friends from those days, but I had quite a bit of angst from always feeling a little like an outsider. In hindsight, I was a depressed teenager and young adult so I would be mindful of your sons mood and social opportunities.

This isn't exactly a ringing endorsement for skipping a grade. I don't get the hurry, there is no special prize for graduating young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can repeat a year in college if he fails out or he can start taking college prerequisites and have an associates by the time he graduates high school and be the youngest ever to whatever. Don’t hold him back

Sure, just pay for another year of college, why not?! Then try to land a job or internship with your lousy GPA. Better to be on the cautious side and delay kindergarten than end up like this because you don't want to "hold back" and would rather your kid make terrible costly mistakes later on.