His snoring is my problem?

[Anonymous]

Earplugs, white noise, mattress on floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would a bigger bed help?

+1 Or two separate beds? If two full beds would fit in the bedroom, that's probably what I would so. Plus white noise and ear plugs.

[Anonymous]

I have been sleeping on our couch about 4 to 5 nights a week for years, OP. My husband isn't even as bad as yours, but I am a light sleeper and I just can't stand laying in bed listening to all those noises. We don't have a guest room either, so it is what it is. It's kind of cozy.

[Anonymous]

At the very least, you should do the two twins as a king thing. If there isn’t space for two separate twin beds, at least twin beds each other with separate twin sheets so his thrashing stays on his bed.

[Anonymous]

A couple of suggestions. If he doesn’t believe you, maybe you can record an hour or two of him, sleeping, snoring and smacking you around. And maybe you should consider moving into a different room we’re sleeping on a different bed.

[Anonymous]

My husband's snoring has also gotten significantly worse over the years. I've asked him to try breathe right strips and to consider doing a sleep study. I told him about my former roommate (housemate) who snored; she did a sleep study and ended up getting her adenoids removed, and said it was life changing because she was finally getting quality sleep and actually felt rested each morning. My husband typically sleeps from ~9 p.m. to 5:30-6 a.m. and constantly complains about being exhausted, and I'm convinced it's because his quality of sleep is so poor.

Anyway, he doesn't do anything to address it, so a few weeks ago I started sleeping in our guest bedroom. I've tried 4 different kinds of ear plugs along with white noise, but unless I fall asleep before him (which... I don't have time to go to bed before 9 p.m.), it's impossible to drown out his snoring to get to a place where I can fall asleep. It's very frustrating. If we didn't have a guest room or if we end up having more kids who move into the guest room, I will sleep on the couch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This used to be common in our bedroom:

*smack* "Stop snoring!"
"I'm not snoring...I'm awake"

We are in separate bedrooms now and much happier.

+1. I’m sorry this is not a solution but I can definitely commiserate.

[Anonymous]

This doctor who said not inclined to treat -- is it a sleep doctor?

Tell him to go to Virginia Heart and get another study. That sounds like it could be apnea.

I suppose if he doesn't treat it, at least he'll be gone soon.

[Anonymous]

Well, as a practical matter it is your problem because he isn’t going to try to do anything about it. At any rate, cpap is for sleep apnea, not snoring, and it sounds like he doesn’t have it.

You need separate rooms. Or at least separate beds, given that you say you can’t do that. Get two large twin beds so his flailing around can’t bother you and use earplugs to block out the sound of the snores.

[Anonymous]

You have to start sleeping in the guest room. It's fine to go to bed together, have sex, but then leave. My DH hates this but you HAVE to sleep.

[Anonymous]

we sleep in separate rooms and have for the most part for the past 10 years. DH snored but also punches walls/people in his sleep and thankfully doesn't want to hurt me, so volunteered to move to the guest room. I am now so spoiled, I cannot sleep if we have a share a bed in a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

I would sleep on the couch. If a few days or weeks of that doesn't change anything for him, I'd get a really nice sleeper sofa.

[Anonymous]

He’s asleep, he can’t help it.

I move to the couch or guest room. It’s my problem because he is asleep and can’t control these movements.

[Anonymous]

Has he tried the anti-snoring nose strips? they work pretty well.

[Anonymous]

I snore very loudly. I did a sleep study but the doc said it was only "mild" apnea, whatever that means. Nevertheless, I got a CPAP, not just to make things quieter in the shared bedroom, but because I found that I slept better with it. No more waking up in the middle of the night for "unknown" reasons, no more waking up with a sore throat from snoring like a hog. I would encourage OP's DH at least to try it and see if he feels better. He might not even realize how poorly he's sleeping without it.