Anyone else with a bf or DH who can’t accept a compliment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, such a silly thing for you to think is a negative. He's humble. That's probably his is most important, best very quality. And he's probably authentic.

The two of you may not be a match.

I didn’t say it was a negative. His humble and modest which I treasure. Post is about how to express this in a way he can accept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, such a silly thing for you to think is a negative. He's humble. That's probably his is most important, best very quality. And he's probably authentic.

The two of you may not be a match.

I didn’t say it was a negative. His humble and modest which I treasure. Post is about how to express this in a way he can accept.

Why can’t you respect his request that you stop?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also a woman that can't stand certain compliments. Some are fake and I think you are trying to make me feel better.

Some are real but I don't really need to hear... wow you are such a good cook... I mean no I'm not, but I did rock this one meal so I'm fine with this is delicious.

Wow you are so beautiful, well not really but good try. I'm actually okay with your ars looks great in those jean because they do.

I guess the reason I hate it is because the person is pointing out something I think is something I don't value or I think they are BSing me.

My wife is like this and honestly it’s driving a huge wedge in our relationship. Me not being able to say something i I genuinely feel is the equivalent of me lying and I and I feel like it makes for a disingenuous relationship.

The ironic part is, she knows I’m very blunt, and in any other circumstance, wouldn’t say something that I don’t truly feel so I don’t know why she doesn’t believe me in these instances.

I'm sorry we are so weird about this and I'm also sorry it is "driving a wedge" but can't you find things that she does appreciate you saying and find things that trigger her and adjust.

It's like birthday gifts... my H love concerts so for my birthday I get concert ticket.. even though I hate concerts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, such a silly thing for you to think is a negative. He's humble. That's probably his is most important, best very quality. And he's probably authentic.

The two of you may not be a match.

I didn’t say it was a negative. His humble and modest which I treasure. Post is about how to express this in a way he can accept.

Why can’t you respect his request that you stop?

He didn’t make a request that I stop. He just doesn’t handle it well/changes the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, such a silly thing for you to think is a negative. He's humble. That's probably his is most important, best very quality. And he's probably authentic.

The two of you may not be a match.

I didn’t say it was a negative. His humble and modest which I treasure. Post is about how to express this in a way he can accept.

What's his love language? I'm.like your bf in that I don't really like praise, but acts of service and thoughtful gifts mean more to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also a woman that can't stand certain compliments. Some are fake and I think you are trying to make me feel better.

Some are real but I don't really need to hear... wow you are such a good cook... I mean no I'm not, but I did rock this one meal so I'm fine with this is delicious.

Wow you are so beautiful, well not really but good try. I'm actually okay with your ars looks great in those jean because they do.

I guess the reason I hate it is because the person is pointing out something I think is something I don't value or I think they are BSing me.

My wife is like this and honestly it’s driving a huge wedge in our relationship. Me not being able to say something i I genuinely feel is the equivalent of me lying and I and I feel like it makes for a disingenuous relationship.

The ironic part is, she knows I’m very blunt, and in any other circumstance, wouldn’t say something that I don’t truly feel so I don’t know why she doesn’t believe me in these instances.

I'm sorry we are so weird about this and I'm also sorry it is "driving a wedge" but can't you find things that she does appreciate you saying and find things that trigger her and adjust.

It's like birthday gifts... my H love concerts so for my birthday I get concert ticket.. even though I hate concerts.

PP here. I don’t think the gift thing is an appropriate comparison.

The wedge is there because I have to edit myself.

We had an event to go toshe looked amazing. I told her she looked stunning. That didn’t go over well. Normally I would have just kept that to myself. But it was an in the moment honest reaction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, such a silly thing for you to think is a negative. He's humble. That's probably his is most important, best very quality. And he's probably authentic.

The two of you may not be a match.

I didn’t say it was a negative. His humble and modest which I treasure. Post is about how to express this in a way he can accept.

Why can’t you respect his request that you stop?

He didn’t make a request that I stop. He just doesn’t handle it well/changes the subject.

Lol. “She didn’t exactly say no…”