How often do you see in laws?

[Anonymous]

OP, you are being a dick. It sounds like you’re seeing your in-laws maybe once a week for a short amount of time maybe a couple hours. Come on man there are your children’s grandparents and your husband’s parents. Just stop it.

[Anonymous]

Wow I would not be able to tolerate as many visits as you already do!

I see my ils whenever we have a family birthday, it generally works out to about once a quarter as several are close together. DH saw his mom over the weekend to drive her to an appointment.

[Anonymous]

I think your MIL found this post. You see them plenty, just say you already have plans and will see them at the birthday dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had my in laws over three weeks ago, saw them last week, will take them out to eat next week for a bday dinner, and now mil wants to “see the kids” tomorrow which means they would come to us bc teens are working and busy so no time to go to them (they are an hour away) it’s too much for me as mil especially is not a kind woman. Dh feels immense guilt and like a shitty son saying no, but I don’t want to always have to think about them and cater to them.

So why is she really coming if the teens are not even going to be around?

Is she busy? Lonely? Bored? Cheap? Has no friends or activities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s a hard one. I would feel bad if I did something that would prevent my DH from seeing his mother. Just like if my DH was not fine with my mother visiting, I would raise an eyebrow.

Your DH should be doing most of the work hosting unless you’re a SAHP.

Uhhh, lay off the guilt trip

The SAHP is in NO WAY obligated to do any extra effort to host the WOHP parents. Ever. Both positions are full of work and if one parent wants to host their parents, they need to be prepared to plan and prep and execute the visit. Unless the partner WANTS TO or is WILLING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are being a dick. It sounds like you’re seeing your in-laws maybe once a week for a short amount of time maybe a couple hours. Come on man there are your children’s grandparents and your husband’s parents. Just stop it.

Disgusting. Poor children!!! Once a week isn’t enough?!? You are messed up. God I pray you don’t have kids! You will pimp out time with them to every one you know. You think your kids owe their lives to others. Disgusting worst parents ever.