Almost but not quite good enough

[Anonymous]

OP here - it’s hard to manifest good energy when I keep being second best or not picked.

[Anonymous]

You’re too hard on yourself. Even for people who are not immigrants, it’s hard to get into Harvard or UVA. I think what you’re feeling is the realization that hard work doesn’t necessarily get you to where you want. Nowadays, it’s athletes or legacies who get into top schools or people with a lot of money who hire college consultants to know exactly what to do and when. Nobody expects first generation to have this all figured out, which is why generally colleges give these kids a boost. Best thing you can do is find a mentor at work who can help guide you.

[Anonymous]

Jeez, I'm a legacy who was waitlisted and then rejected for Harvard. Am I supposed to feel badly about that too?

I don't think so - I've got better things to do with my short time on this earth!

And so do you.

[Anonymous]

What is this obsession lately with being an immigrant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - it’s hard to manifest good energy when I keep being second best or not picked.

Be honest here: do you think a silver medal winner in the Olympics is “second best”? Do you really have to be the best in the country or world at something to feel accomplished? Did this idea come from your family or what? The vast, vast majority of Americans don’t get waitlisted to Harvard or deferred from UVA. This is a problem in how you look at things. I recommend cognitive behavioral therapy.

[Anonymous]

Who told you to even go close to Harvard? If you are so great, you don't need Harvard or college. You show them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is this obsession lately with being an immigrant?[/quote]


gets more traction on this liberal website

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need to vent and put this out in the universe - my disappointment and frustration. I applied to Harvard and got waitlisted then denied. I got into UVA BUT I had to wait a year / deferred which was not an option. I applied for an SES position and am a second choice in case things fall through with first candidate (they won’t).

I am an immigrant and everything is just so hard to climb and claw and I never get it, always second best always something second or third option. That’s it, I know life is hard for others but I sense a pattern. Just not good enough.

This is not correct so I call troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need to vent and put this out in the universe - my disappointment and frustration. I applied to Harvard and got waitlisted then denied. I got into UVA BUT I had to wait a year / deferred which was not an option. I applied for an SES position and am a second choice in case things fall through with first candidate (they won’t).

I am an immigrant and everything is just so hard to climb and claw and I never get it, always second best always something second or third option. That’s it, I know life is hard for others but I sense a pattern. Just not good enough.

This is not correct so I call troll

OP here ha! What if I told you it was for law school? Spoiler alert couldn’t even do a t14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is this obsession lately with being an immigrant?

OP here it’s disappointment with it, not obsession.

[Anonymous]

OP here I get it being thankful and all for what I have, slash what I obviously can’t get no matter how hard I try or work for it. Must be that loser energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I think people misunderstood my immigrant comment. I would have done things differently and I will give my children advice to push them forward and I will to the extent possible set them up to succeed. I worked college jobs (ha, not Harvard) at restaurants and Jack in the Box to have money to help my family. I applied to Harvard bc that’s all I knew as “important school” when I didn’t have someone counsel me on options or transferring etc. You all have to realize I’ve been at least two steps behind - a friendly colleague had to explain what a TSP is how stocks work to me on a random day one year into my first job. Just garbage like this I’m disappointed in myself I wish I would have done better in the interview, on applications, had been more thoughtful and listened or researched more. Thought I’d get better but I keep failing so I’ve clearly not learned and still missing things.

You are near the top of a very large global pyramid of luck and wealth. Take just a minute and look down. Then resume your climb if you still feel unsatisfied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - it’s hard to manifest good energy when I keep being second best or not picked.

If you got into Harvard, were you prepared to pay the tuition or were you counting on significant scholarship funding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - it’s hard to manifest good energy when I keep being second best or not picked.

If you got into Harvard, were you prepared to pay the tuition or were you counting on significant scholarship funding?

OP here, all student loans (zero help from family or anyone). That also no one educated me on properly and I still took and I still worked the dumb restaurant job during all semesters and college and had to do PSLF to address the student loans.

[Anonymous]

OP, Sorry all the meanies are out in full force right now. 😕

Remember:
There is no elevator to success…
Only staircases.

In my opinion - you sound like a very accomplished individual.

Try to understand that.
And know that one day, someday >> your time will come around!

Nothing good in life ever comes easy.
Wishing you all the best!