Accepting admission offers

[Anonymous]

I actually think it's fine from an ethics perspective, but I don't understand why you would do it at this point.

[Anonymous]

Book a tour asap as an accepted student and re-tour the 2-3 DC is considering. Based on what you see and hear, trust DC's gut. It will be ok. Kicking the can down the road just so you can stay in indecision isn't productive.

[Anonymous]

So my husband and I had to laugh that the college deposit at acceptance is lower than anyone we ever had for frickin' travel soccer. Our HS deposit was $1k.

I assumed it would be $1,000 minimum or higher.

But- my kid will decide before we put down the deposit. The only scenario I could see ethically breaking it is that you got off a waitlist in the summer for your top choice. ED-no, no, no unless it's an aid thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my husband and I had to laugh that the college deposit at acceptance is lower than anyone we ever had for frickin' travel soccer. Our HS deposit was $1k.

I assumed it would be $1,000 minimum or higher.

But- my kid will decide before we put down the deposit. The only scenario I could see ethically breaking it is that you got off a waitlist in the summer for your top choice. ED-no, no, no unless it's an aid thing.

^any

[Anonymous]

WTF are you accepting if you aren't sure??? They aren't going to take away your acceptance, you have until May 1st to decide (and some schools are even moving this later due to the financial aid thing).

I'm at a loss on why you hit 'accept' already when you are clearly undecided.

My kid is going to all the admitted student days and doing some more research and waiting to see what RD brings, even though one of his admits is one of his top choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you accept so early? You have almost three months to decide. May 1 is generally the date you have to pay a deposit somewhere.

EXACTLY!!! Wtf?!?!

[Anonymous]

Double depositing is a no no. What is fine is if the student deposits, then has a change of heart/gets off a waitlist/etc. and wants to switch schools. Then you simply rescind your acceptance at the first school (usually forfeiting your deposit) and accept at the second school. Overlap of a couple of days while you work out the logistics isn’t going to upset anyone, but having multiple deposits for any length of time is a violation of a term you agreed to when submitting the Common App - “I affirm that I will send an enrollment deposit (or equivalent) to only one institution; sending multiple deposits (or equivalent) may result in the withdrawal of my admission offers from all institutions. [Note: students may send an enrollment deposit (or equivalent) to a second institution where they have been admitted from the waitlist, provided that they inform the first institution that they will no longer be enrolling.]”

[Anonymous]

OP. For those asking, we want to do this primarily to make sure DC gets good housing.. All three places seem to place a priority on acceptance date for housing allocations.

For those talking about ethics.. How is this different from dropping a school after you find out that your 'dream school' has accepted you RD or you come off the wait list in June?

I don't like gray areas so am trying to make sure whether this IS a violation of acceptance terms and if so where on a college's website it would be stated (or when during the acceptance process will I be told that it's not acceptable). I didn't see it when we were clicking the button for college 1, hence the question.

As for ethics, please don't get be started on colleges and ethics..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Double depositing is a no no. What is fine is if the student deposits, then has a change of heart/gets off a waitlist/etc. and wants to switch schools. Then you simply rescind your acceptance at the first school (usually forfeiting your deposit) and accept at the second school. Overlap of a couple of days while you work out the logistics isn’t going to upset anyone, but having multiple deposits for any length of time is a violation of a term you agreed to when submitting the Common App - “I affirm that I will send an enrollment deposit (or equivalent) to only one institution; sending multiple deposits (or equivalent) may result in the withdrawal of my admission offers from all institutions. [Note: students may send an enrollment deposit (or equivalent) to a second institution where they have been admitted from the waitlist, provided that they inform the first institution that they will no longer be enrolling.]”

I saw that statement in the common app but not on the school's website. Common App is welcome to cancel my account now that DC has already been admitted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Double depositing is a no no. What is fine is if the student deposits, then has a change of heart/gets off a waitlist/etc. and wants to switch schools. Then you simply rescind your acceptance at the first school (usually forfeiting your deposit) and accept at the second school. Overlap of a couple of days while you work out the logistics isn’t going to upset anyone, but having multiple deposits for any length of time is a violation of a term you agreed to when submitting the Common App - “I affirm that I will send an enrollment deposit (or equivalent) to only one institution; sending multiple deposits (or equivalent) may result in the withdrawal of my admission offers from all institutions. [Note: students may send an enrollment deposit (or equivalent) to a second institution where they have been admitted from the waitlist, provided that they inform the first institution that they will no longer be enrolling.]”

I saw that statement in the common app but not on the school's website. Common App is welcome to cancel my account now that DC has already been admitted.

Seems like you’re trying really hard to make this okay by the school.

[Anonymous]

In fairness to OP...it doesn't feel like a school is actually giving you until May 1 or I guess now June 1, if they are also making you feel like your kid will live in the worst dorm miles from campus if you wait until that date to accept.

[Anonymous]

There might not be fine print, but you agree to things when submitting the common app, and that’s one of them. A college where you were accepted through the common app could find out and say you agreed to it when you applied, (now when you accepted admission).

[Anonymous]

Oh yes. Yes, OP is trying to rationalize this ethically questionable course of action.

College ethics? So you base what you do on what others do? You are ok being as unethical as the system you think is unethical.

You signed an agreement with the CA not to do exactly what you want to do.

Housing? That’s your reason? And you don’t think your child’s future classmates don’t have similar concerns?

The difference is that you accept one school with the understanding if you get accepted to a higher choice, you can rescind that ONE acceptance to accept the other. Not multiple acceptances while you make up your tiny mind.

Unethical *and* selfish.

[Anonymous]

OP - housing was the only reason I could think of to do this.

But housing aside....try to work now to narrow it down to ONE school so you can inform other schools and they can act accordingly in admissions for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. For those asking, we want to do this primarily to make sure DC gets good housing.. All three places seem to place a priority on acceptance date for housing allocations.

For those talking about ethics.. How is this different from dropping a school after you find out that your 'dream school' has accepted you RD or you come off the wait list in June?

I don't like gray areas so am trying to make sure whether this IS a violation of acceptance terms and if so where on a college's website it would be stated (or when during the acceptance process will I be told that it's not acceptable). I didn't see it when we were clicking the button for college 1, hence the question.

As for ethics, please don't get be started on colleges and ethics..

Seems to me you love gray areas where you can wiggle around and find a good ole loophole to exploit.