Multiple urgent priorities-how to tackle?

[Anonymous]

OP, on Monday (this weekend focus on your son), can you spend the whole morning sitting down and writing down the things you need to do/decisions you need to make? Start a sheet of paper for each heading: house, income, childcare. As your brain freaks and jumps from one to the other, write down the things for that one. Then if there are any tasks you can do regardless of other decisions, make a list of those. Make a separate list of top level decisions. For each decisions, figure out what your factors are (I find ranked spreadsheets helpful for this) and try to determine the least bad option. Whenever the decision making process sends you into a total panic cycle, work on the task list.

I have no practical advice for your specific situation (it sounds very hard and I’m so sorry you and your DS are stuck with it) but the above is how I try to handle scary chaos decision making. My idea is to try and turn the mess of EVERYTHING into small enough units that one of them feels achievable and once you do that you can make progress.