How long can you room share?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never had my own room until my sister left for college.

This is not about siblings sharing a room but kids sharing with parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realistically before the child "needs" their own bedroom?

We both grew up in the city so we aren't foreign to city living and small spaces but also want to be fair to our new child.

We have one bedroom and we want to room share until at least 1 year but can go until 2-3? Until they ask for their own room? I imagine not much past 4?

Our living room has space to play but we can't convert it into a second bedroom or carve out sleeping space. But will have lots of toys. We also have a play area in our building and two parks across the st and a big grassy field.

Our bedroom can comfortably fit a mini crib that converts to toddler bed and a rocker and little shelf, wall shelving and some floor space to play

We know eventually we will need to move but we would love to maximize this space for as long as possible especially as I plan to take substantial time off until she's in school full-time.

Any thoughts appreciated. Except I don't really want to hear how I should be putting my 3 month old down the hall in her own imaginary room and she needs independence or something. I don't have the luxury of anything else right now but I want to think even if we had a big house we would still room share for safety and closeness. I grew up in an Indian household and we lived in an apt and I shared with my siblings but cousins who were back home and in large houses had sleeping rooms whee everyone slept and then play rooms..

Well, it depends on your resources and needs. If similar gender and low conflict kids, they can do it until high school. They'll have to share in dorms with strangers anyways.

[Anonymous]

We shared until older kid was 2 years 10
months and we bought a house. It would have been fine to share longer but I was pregnant.

Older kid continued to want to be in our for my most nights until 4, at which point we moved them together.

[Anonymous]

As long as you want! I think you’d want to move your clothes out of the bedroom and into the living room. That will give you more space in the bedroom and more importantly mean that you don’t have to wake the baby up to get changed. I don’t see also why the kid can’t have the bedroom and you guys sleep in the living room eventually?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Realistically before the child "needs" their own bedroom?

We both grew up in the city so we aren't foreign to city living and small spaces but also want to be fair to our new child.

We have one bedroom and we want to room share until at least 1 year but can go until 2-3? Until they ask for their own room? I imagine not much past 4?

Our living room has space to play but we can't convert it into a second bedroom or carve out sleeping space. But will have lots of toys. We also have a play area in our building and two parks across the st and a big grassy field.

Our bedroom can comfortably fit a mini crib that converts to toddler bed and a rocker and little shelf, wall shelving and some floor space to play

We know eventually we will need to move but we would love to maximize this space for as long as possible especially as I plan to take substantial time off until she's in school full-time.

Any thoughts appreciated. Except I don't really want to hear how I should be putting my 3 month old down the hall in her own imaginary room and she needs independence or something. I don't have the luxury of anything else right now but I want to think even if we had a big house we would still room share for safety and closeness. I grew up in an Indian household and we lived in an apt and I shared with my siblings but cousins who were back home and in large houses had sleeping rooms whee everyone slept and then play rooms..

Well, it depends on your resources and needs. If similar gender and low conflict kids, they can do it until high school. They'll have to share in dorms with strangers anyways.

Reading comprehension....op isn't asking about siblings.

[Anonymous]

We lived all four of us in a one-bedroom, all sleeping in the same room, until we had saved enough for a downpayment on a home. DC1 was 5 and DC2 was 1 when we moved. DC1 slept that entire time in his crib (he was a small child), and DC2 slept in our bed.

They're in college and high school now and doing well. Each with their own room

[Anonymous]

I don’t think a child would “need” their own bedroom until like 10 or 12. I think what you’re much more likely to run up against is you and your spouses needs. I know parents who roomshared a while, and by the time the was 2 they were DONE. No privacy, carefully scheduling sex, tiptoeing around after the kid went to sleep… it’s really really hard long term on the parents.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what kind of sleepers your kids are and how much sleep disruption you're willing to put up with.

We thought we would have our two older girls share a room when #3 was coming. They were 4 and 6 at the time. They did for a few months but we realized they have entirely different sleep patterns. One was early to bed and up early the other was the complete opposite. They would wake each other up a lot. While they could have continued to share it wasn't worth it for us. We had the space so they each got their own room for everyone's sanity.

I shared a room with my older sister until we went to college. We didn't have extra rooms so you just had to share.

[Anonymous]

AAP recommends room sharing for at least the first six months: “AAP recommends that parents sleep in the same room – but not in the same bed as a baby, preferably for at least the first six months.”

We kept DC in our room for 18 months and we had a 3 story 3 bedroom house. It’s a personal choice. Moving DC to their own room wasn’t a big deal either. Transition was fairly seamless.

Source: https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AAP recommends room sharing for at least the first six months: “AAP recommends that parents sleep in the same room – but not in the same bed as a baby, preferably for at least the first six months.”

We kept DC in our room for 18 months and we had a 3 story 3 bedroom house. It’s a personal choice. Moving DC to their own room wasn’t a big deal either. Transition was fairly seamless.

Source: https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/

AAP recommendations are written on toilet paper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AAP recommends room sharing for at least the first six months: “AAP recommends that parents sleep in the same room – but not in the same bed as a baby, preferably for at least the first six months.”

We kept DC in our room for 18 months and we had a 3 story 3 bedroom house. It’s a personal choice. Moving DC to their own room wasn’t a big deal either. Transition was fairly seamless.

Source: https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/

AAP recommendations are written on toilet paper

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