graduated from college but not working.

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Anonymous wrote:He's taking his gap year after college. If he has a plan then honor the plan (okay to be on your insurance, maybe you charge him for that).

He has a CS degree so this is very normal and he will find work the minute he wants to. Whoever said the CS market is not good is lying - entry level is always there and will he make $250k out the gate, no. But he will earn a livable wage for a 22 year old

This…. Re the CS market. My kid graduates in May and has 2 offers - accepted one after his internship this past summer; and he is still intervieeing because ideally he wants to be in a city close to his girlfriends Law School.

And yes, these companies are offering these 22 year olds $150k+ to start.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS graduated from college one semester early in December '23 with a degree in CS from University of Florida and received several offers. He turned down all of them and decided to use the money he saved from three previous internships, 50K, to travel the world and work on his physical appearance (i.e. working with a physical fitness instructor) and pick up his guitar hobby again. He doesn't plan to get a job until December '24. His exact words to me were "I want to be the best version of myself physically and emotionally in the next twelve months". Is it normal for young people these days to take a break for a year before entering the workforce or grad school?

Its not common but there is nothing wrong with a gap year if he can afford it.

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Good for him. Sounds like he’s got the logistics figured out. This is the only time in his time he can have this kind of adventure. So cool he’s actually doing it

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Personally, I would be worried and want kid to either work or go to grad school but I grew up middle class and have seen people fell off the wagon and struggling getting back on it.

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Most people do it with Peace corps, Teach English Abroad or Fulbright but if he has money and plan, it can work.

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It would not be a problem for me. Nothing wrong about taking a year off. Tell him to pick up some certs online during his travels to improve his resume.

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He will be very happy in Vietnam. I just came back to the US last week but will be leaving for Vietnam on Friday to celebrate Lunar New Year there.

My 23 years old DS is staying in a very luxury high rise apartment in Da Nang Vietnam for $1000/month ($500 per month on his part) with another roommate. He spends about $$700/month on eating out all the time and drinking, $400/month on travel. $300/month on country club. For 2k/month, he lives in luxury in Da Nang VietNam. His 50K will let him live extremely well for two years there.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is awesome....and I am very jealous!!

I completely agree - a well-thought-out plan that he is funding himself. And getting healthy is a great habit to cultivate at his age. wow - he sounds very mature!

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In my kids friend group this was very popular.

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I don't know about normal, but if he's using his own money, that he earned working, I support this 100 percent.

[Anonymous]

He'll be fine.

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I can understand for a couple of months but not a full year. I would hate to have him living under my roof while he is perfecting himself. My husband and I worked very hard to put our kids through college and we’d be very direct if one of ours did that.

[Anonymous]

A break for a few months is fine, a year is not. Tell him he needs to pay his own health insurance, housing, etc. if he chooses not to work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taking his gap year after college. If he has a plan then honor the plan (okay to be on your insurance, maybe you charge him for that).

He has a CS degree so this is very normal and he will find work the minute he wants to. Whoever said the CS market is not good is lying - entry level is always there and will he make $250k out the gate, no. But he will earn a livable wage for a 22 year old

This…. Re the CS market. My kid graduates in May and has 2 offers - accepted one after his internship this past summer; and he is still intervieeing because ideally he wants to be in a city close to his girlfriends Law School.

And yes, these companies are offering these 22 year olds $150k+ to start.

Very rare to get $150K to start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand for a couple of months but not a full year. I would hate to have him living under my roof while he is perfecting himself. My husband and I worked very hard to put our kids through college and we’d be very direct if one of ours did that.

What is the issue? He graduated early and saved up 50K, that’s not working hard? Sound like he is very responsible, mature and know what he wants to do with his life. I would be very happy if that was my kid.