Overbearing friend

[Anonymous]

Do you know what a friend is? Another classic DCUM example of someone who can't have a relationship at any level. She is checking in on your.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know what a friend is? Another classic DCUM example of someone who can't have a relationship at any level. She is checking in on your.

on YOU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know what a friend is? Another classic DCUM example of someone who can't have a relationship at any level. She is checking in on your.

on YOU

Are you just an engagement troll?

Are you 15?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Presumably the friend had always been like this. When you feel better, explore why she’s suddenly so annoying.

For now, tell her you’re sick and will be out of pocket. Then block her till you’re ready to deal w/ hey.

Were you in a codependent friendship, but now that you’re pregnant you feel too good for her? She sounds needy, yes, but also hurt.

No not codependent. She got married at the end of last year and moved about an hour away from the rest of our friends. She has become clingy to the friend group as a whole but we've never had that kind of relationship before ( some of these women she's known for 20 years) I'm a much more recent addition to the group.

And no I don't feel too good for her. I'm puking hourly and not in the mood to be on the phone.

I don't quite get her being hurt when I've texted her I'm not feeling well not able to talk to you at the moment. But I suppose she could be or just not liking the lack of attn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know what a friend is? Another classic DCUM example of someone who can't have a relationship at any level. She is checking in on your.

Check on me once. When I say I'm sick but okay just not in the mood to shoot the shit right now. Respect that

[Anonymous]

Maybe she had a hard pregnancy too and is trying to support you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her you're taking a phone break as the constant texts and calls are wearing you out and you're desperate for some peace and quiet. It doesn't put blame on her.

I had the same situation when sick, tired and pregnant with an overbearing friend. I ended up cutting her off and later felt bad because I could have tried to salvage the situation but hormones and an exhausted body made me desperate to find some peace.

Thanks this is exactly how I feel. I just want to be alone and have some peace between the vomiting/diarrhea and anxiety that comes with being in the first trimester after IVF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she had a hard pregnancy too and is trying to support you.

Never been pregnant. But since we are now pregnant she's getting her IUD out. There's that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she had a hard pregnancy too and is trying to support you.

Never been pregnant. But since we are now pregnant she's getting her IUD out. There's that.

I’ll toss this idea out there. When I was nauseated and puking a lot in a first trimester, I found protein helped a lot. I added a few high protein foods that I found appealing and the sickness eventually dissipated.

The friend getting their IUD out sounds a bit odd. I’d use one of the messages above and even set up a block your phone.

You don’t have to reply to texts. 😄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she had a hard pregnancy too and is trying to support you.

Never been pregnant. But since we are now pregnant she's getting her IUD out. There's that.

I’ll toss this idea out there. When I was nauseated and puking a lot in a first trimester, I found protein helped a lot. I added a few high protein foods that I found appealing and the sickness eventually dissipated.

The friend getting their IUD out sounds a bit odd. I’d use one of the messages above and even set up a block your phone.

You don’t have to reply to texts. 😄

Thanks. I'll try. I've been surviving on goldfish and saltines so I know my protein intake is in the trash. I'm hoping once I'm off these IVF meds and the placenta takes over I'll start feeling a little better

It's so insane. I also realize I'm probably annoyed at so much more than her bugging me when I'm feeling so sick but that's gotta be a problem for another day