Do you think craving this much alone time is normal?

[Anonymous]

Some people need or want it more than others. I am one of those. DH is not but he understands I am a better wife and mother when I’ve had periods of solitude.

[Anonymous]

Why is this a surprise OP?

[Anonymous]

So jealous OP! I am one of those people that need more alone time than others, which is why I stay up late at night when my family is sleeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds normal to me. I’m looking forward to a packed 3-day business trip with red eye flights next month because it will be three whole days where I only have manage myself (I have toddlers; they take a lot of managing) and two five hour flights where absolutely no one will talk to me. A week entirely on my own by ocean sounds MAGICAL.

THIS. Other than overnight in a hotel on a business trip, I haven’t been alone and stationary (not driving a car) for more than a few hours in close to 8 years. It would be amazing to spend a few days or a week anywhere all by myself!!!

[Anonymous]

You know, if it ISN"T abnormal (and I agree it's not abnormal) - what are we doing to normalize it?

Whenever I - who IS married with 4 kids and many friends, thank you- go to to restaurants alone INTENTIONALLY the waitstaff is so disturbed

[Anonymous]

I am so glad that we aren’t demonizingOP for this. Bc that sounds absolutely incredible to me (aside from the whole being sick thing).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, if it ISN"T abnormal (and I agree it's not abnormal) - what are we doing to normalize it?

Whenever I - who IS married with 4 kids and many friends, thank you- go to to restaurants alone INTENTIONALLY the waitstaff is so disturbed

It’s in your head, I do this and they absolutely don’t care. Unless you look or act like a problem, everyone in a restaurant has forgotten you before you leave (not saying they don’t take great care of people just why would they worry about you eating alone).

[Anonymous]

PP here- you are right -- they care much less than they used to, but they 100% used to care esp outside the US or liberal areas of the US

[Anonymous]

You need yoga and meditation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, if it ISN"T abnormal (and I agree it's not abnormal) - what are we doing to normalize it?

Whenever I - who IS married with 4 kids and many friends, thank you- go to to restaurants alone INTENTIONALLY the waitstaff is so disturbed

This is absolutely in your head. Maybe you should see a therapist. You seem abnormally self-centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know, if it ISN"T abnormal (and I agree it's not abnormal) - what are we doing to normalize it?

Whenever I - who IS married with 4 kids and many friends, thank you- go to to restaurants alone INTENTIONALLY the waitstaff is so disturbed

This is absolutely in your head. Maybe you should see a therapist. You seem abnormally self-centered.

I might be , but this is not the reason why! I've actually done a fair amount of asking and research on this (it's somewhat adjacent to what I do professionally).

[Anonymous]

^ informal research

[Anonymous]

But in any case, my point was - especially as woman and/or caretakers - let's support each other in making alone time easier!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, if it ISN"T abnormal (and I agree it's not abnormal) - what are we doing to normalize it?

Whenever I - who IS married with 4 kids and many friends, thank you- go to to restaurants alone INTENTIONALLY the waitstaff is so disturbed

so confused by this post...just what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know, if it ISN"T abnormal (and I agree it's not abnormal) - what are we doing to normalize it?

Whenever I - who IS married with 4 kids and many friends, thank you- go to to restaurants alone INTENTIONALLY the waitstaff is so disturbed

so confused by this post...just what does this mean?

If so many woman crave this type of time alone - if it isn't abnormal, which it isn't - then it seems like more of us need time alone for recharging. As a society, we need to support that.