Do you think craving this much alone time is normal?

[Anonymous]

So my sister has a beautiful coastal beach house, that they do not use a lot due to their crazy work schedules and life with two teens (they are planning to sell in April) she is always encouraging us to use it. We rarely have, only once or twice with the family.

I recently got Covid and she immediately urged me to go down to the house and convalesce, telling me how much I will love it. Its only a few hours away.

So I did. She created a monster.

I never knew how much alone time I needed, how much I would love it and frankly how much I NEED this in my life. I have been here 4 days and I am eating what I want, watching what I want, don't have to talk to a soul, reading a book for the first time in a year, stay in my pjs all day if I so choose. I feel guilty to say I don't even miss my family. I mean I do and I don't. I love them dearly but know they are all busy with school, work, etc...so don't really feel guilty for not being there.

technically I can go home tomorrow but I don't want to!! I want to stay here another week (I do a lot of work form home) Do you think this is normal? I hope it does not have some kind of underlying meaning about how I feel about my husband/family life! I feel lucky and fortunate and greatly treasure my family life. I just never had the chance to do this and I am loving it.....now I am sure by next week I will be ready to go home (hopefully)

[Anonymous]

It sounds amazing!!!!!! Like really amazing.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you may be burnt out by family. So often woman/mom/wife is the one holding everything together, and you dont realize how much work it is until you can let go.

I'm glad you got some time to "let go"! Too bad they are selling it so soon!

[Anonymous]

Build it into your life once you go back. Take periodic me time days or weeks if you can. Yes it's normal! And healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Build it into your life once you go back. Take periodic me time days or weeks if you can. Yes it's normal! And healthy.

Absolutely normal and healthy!!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely healthy and normal.

[Anonymous]

I had Covid in my own home and aside from being very ill, it was amazing. Agree that we can get burned out by being parents / spouses / workers.

[Anonymous]

Normal.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy! That's my life. My kids are at several relatives' house with cousins or ex's house.
I wished for me time more than upgrading my life. I work part time by design because I need so little.
Kids are often somewhere else:school, out with friends, play-dates, relatives' houses, traveling.

[Anonymous]

So normal.

[Anonymous]

Very normal.

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s normal. I love my spouse and kid but when I’m alone it’s freeing. I can just be me and not a wife and mother for a few day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had Covid in my own home and aside from being very ill, it was amazing. Agree that we can get burned out by being parents / spouses / workers.

I don't even have kids and I feel burned out from project managing our lives. Even stupid sh** like making sure the bathroom is clean before people come over, or that crumbs get wiped off the table, or that the dog is going out when she needs to go out.

I would kill a man for a couple of weeks at a nice beach house, all to myself. (Not literally.)

Enjoy, OP.

[Anonymous]

Sounds normal to me. I’m looking forward to a packed 3-day business trip with red eye flights next month because it will be three whole days where I only have manage myself (I have toddlers; they take a lot of managing) and two five hour flights where absolutely no one will talk to me. A week entirely on my own by ocean sounds MAGICAL.

[Anonymous]

Who wouldn’t love lounging around a beach house without any responsibilities?

Fwiw, I travel for work twice a year and enjoy having a week alone in a fancy hotel in a fun city.