If you use dating apps for hookups or uncommitted relationships

[Anonymous]

Woman here, I am only familiar w Tinder. But it asks you to state whether you are looking for short term, long term, unsure, etc. If I see short term, I assume they are interested in hooking up.

Also if I see a mans profile w shirtless pics, or even gym selfies, I assume he is trying to show me what Ill get when I get him naked, thus they are looking for a hookup.

Finally, the profile itself will say “not looking for anything serious” or something along those lines. One man listed his stats including height, weight, and that he is “well endowed”. I figured he was just looking for a hookup. One profile I saw said that he was “casually looking for something serious” which imho was a nice way of indicating that he wasnt just looking to hookup.

I am not looking for anything serious as I am currently going through a divorce and say in my profile something about how I am looking for someone to do fun stuff with when my kids are with their dad. Nothing about trying to share my life with anyone, nothing about “looking for one person to…” Also, Id assume that since my profile states that I am separated most people realize that someone in this place in their life is not looking for something serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question isn't how to hook up. Question is about profiles.

Many women say men lie and claim they want relationships when they really want hookups. The men are supposedly just liars who lie to get sex.

I believe many women try hookups once in a while even though they say they want long term relationships, and really do.

Woman here again. Just based on the women (and men) I know who complain about liars on apps, a lot of these men (and women) who “lie” on apps really don’t lie. They are upfront and honest in a roundabout way, if that makes sense. But people can be delulu and read meaning into anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here, I am only familiar w Tinder. But it asks you to state whether you are looking for short term, long term, unsure, etc. If I see short term, I assume they are interested in hooking up.

Also if I see a mans profile w shirtless pics, or even gym selfies, I assume he is trying to show me what Ill get when I get him naked, thus they are looking for a hookup.

Finally, the profile itself will say “not looking for anything serious” or something along those lines. One man listed his stats including height, weight, and that he is “well endowed”. I figured he was just looking for a hookup. One profile I saw said that he was “casually looking for something serious” which imho was a nice way of indicating that he wasnt just looking to hookup.

I am not looking for anything serious as I am currently going through a divorce and say in my profile something about how I am looking for someone to do fun stuff with when my kids are with their dad. Nothing about trying to share my life with anyone, nothing about “looking for one person to…” Also, Id assume that since my profile states that I am separated most people realize that someone in this place in their life is not looking for something serious.

As long as you're honest. I find women/men going through divorces and on a dating site is an unmitigated disaster. Time the time to do the work and heal. Jumping in the sack with someone as you're separated is a terrible idea. Have some accountability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here, I am only familiar w Tinder. But it asks you to state whether you are looking for short term, long term, unsure, etc. If I see short term, I assume they are interested in hooking up.

Also if I see a mans profile w shirtless pics, or even gym selfies, I assume he is trying to show me what Ill get when I get him naked, thus they are looking for a hookup.

Finally, the profile itself will say “not looking for anything serious” or something along those lines. One man listed his stats including height, weight, and that he is “well endowed”. I figured he was just looking for a hookup. One profile I saw said that he was “casually looking for something serious” which imho was a nice way of indicating that he wasnt just looking to hookup.

I am not looking for anything serious as I am currently going through a divorce and say in my profile something about how I am looking for someone to do fun stuff with when my kids are with their dad. Nothing about trying to share my life with anyone, nothing about “looking for one person to…” Also, Id assume that since my profile states that I am separated most people realize that someone in this place in their life is not looking for something serious.

As long as you're honest. I find women/men going through divorces and on a dating site is an unmitigated disaster. Time the time to do the work and heal. Jumping in the sack with someone as you're separated is a terrible idea. Have some accountability.

It is possible to “do the work” while also getting laid. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here, I am only familiar w Tinder. But it asks you to state whether you are looking for short term, long term, unsure, etc. If I see short term, I assume they are interested in hooking up.

Also if I see a mans profile w shirtless pics, or even gym selfies, I assume he is trying to show me what Ill get when I get him naked, thus they are looking for a hookup.

Finally, the profile itself will say “not looking for anything serious” or something along those lines. One man listed his stats including height, weight, and that he is “well endowed”. I figured he was just looking for a hookup. One profile I saw said that he was “casually looking for something serious” which imho was a nice way of indicating that he wasnt just looking to hookup.

I am not looking for anything serious as I am currently going through a divorce and say in my profile something about how I am looking for someone to do fun stuff with when my kids are with their dad. Nothing about trying to share my life with anyone, nothing about “looking for one person to…” Also, Id assume that since my profile states that I am separated most people realize that someone in this place in their life is not looking for something serious.

As long as you're honest. I find women/men going through divorces and on a dating site is an unmitigated disaster. Time the time to do the work and heal. Jumping in the sack with someone as you're separated is a terrible idea. Have some accountability.

It is possible to “do the work” while also getting laid. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.

Bringing someone into your drama is rude. I mean most people are awful anyways - but you shouldn't be out chasing the D and riding the D carousel as you're going through a divorce.

Do the work and get better and go to therapy. Most women don't have accountability for their actions and of course 100% blame the ex-husband. I can't count how many of them were married to a "narcissist" - which isn't statically possible.

[Anonymous]

If you said you wanted LTR, did you still hook up? Are you a man or a woman?