Despite being on top of their self grooming, my boys are kind of a mess.

[Anonymous]

My 7yo DD is like this. I solved it by buying somewhat neutral leggings/pants (black, gray, denim/dark blue), so whatever top she picks for the day generally doesn't clash.

[Anonymous]

I totally thought I'd dress my boys nicely and not like slobs. Joke's on me. Sweatpants and jersey pants are their entire wardrobes because they won't even wear jeans or khakis. I care that they're clean and groomed but truly, nobody really cares about how an 8 year old dresses.

[Anonymous]

My son started caring more about how he looked after having to wear a uniform in MS and having a dress code in HS. Before that, it was sweats everyday.

[Anonymous]

The boys in my DC’s ES all look like they just rolled out of bed tbh, and this is a school in a wealthier area. Jogging pants, hand-me-downs.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha!! This is my kid!!! He seems to naturally channel the absent-minded professor aesthetic. Seriously, I fix his hair and he runs his hands all through it. Most of his pants have knee holes (even the reinforced ones we bought in August for school). I am at a loss because DH and I are fairly well-groomed so I worry that people think we neglect our kid 🤣

[Anonymous]

Not a problem to fixate on. They are young boys. Outside of formal events no one cares.

My son attended private catholic school at that age and despite a dress code that included button up shirts and ties and dress pants the boys all still looked disheveled. Its part of childhood. They will grow out of it.

[Anonymous]

My elementary boys will not allow me to cut their nails, toes or fingers.
So that’s my life.

[Anonymous]

Unclench. And realize that it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My elementary boys will not allow me to cut their nails, toes or fingers.
So that’s my life.

So sit them down and show them how to do it. They’re too old for mommy to be cutting their nails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My elementary boys will not allow me to cut their nails, toes or fingers.
So that’s my life.

So sit them down and show them how to do it. They’re too old for mommy to be cutting their nails.

3rd grader yes. But kinder?

I also have a feeling they will shy away same as before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My elementary boys will not allow me to cut their nails, toes or fingers.
So that’s my life.

So sit them down and show them how to do it. They’re too old for mommy to be cutting their nails.

3rd grader yes. But kinder?

I also have a feeling they will shy away same as before.

Why? This is part of your job as a parent. They aren’t always going to like everything but too bad.

[Anonymous]

This is absolutely not a hill to die on. Trust me there will be many other things that are and what they wear is not one of them.

If it matters this much to you, you could have them pick out their outfits the night before. Once they choose a pair of pants, offer them 2 different shirts that you know will go with the pants (or vice versa), "do you want the red shirt or the blue short to wear tomorrow?" Problem solved and they are still making decisions about what they are wearing.

But I promise you, by the time they care about what they are wearing, they will choose better.

Signed, mom of a 2 year old Betsy Johnson who at 18 is a fashionista/diva

[Anonymous]

Normal.

[Anonymous]

I agree let it go op, let them be themselves you have the rest of it covered

[Anonymous]

Shorter hair cuts